I've never been in an "official" relationship because of anxiety and other issues. But one thing that helped me know my feelings as if I felt comfortable with that person. I'm rarely ever not anxious with a guy so if they make me feel calm or comfortable, I pursue it. But don' psych yourself out. Atleast try.
Dating during the height of my anxiety was difficult, but I tried to set that aside when considering whether or not to go out with someone (or to go out with someone again). If not for my anxieties in general, if I could be the person I would be if not for the anxiety, would this guy be someone I'd like to go out with? If the answer was yes, then I went. If it wasn't and I was just trying to prove to myself that I COULD date, then the answer was no.
I also wouldn't worry much about your lack of experience. I stressed out about that, too, but found it was really a non-issue for just about everyone except me.
Go for it. You will enjoy getting to know someone, and I don't know if this helps, but sometimes just being present is enough. I honestly think I can fall in love with just about anyone, I can see beauty in everything and everyone, but my boyfriend has been with me through the thick and thin and being there for me, through everything is just... I don't know. I've never experienced that kind of loyalty and stability in my life, and I appreciate it so much. I think honestly that it's worth it, go for it. What have you got to lose? It was SO AWKWARD for me in the beginning, believe me! Before I just dove into dating, kissing, etc, I felt like a freak that I'd never even had a kiss and I was 18!
Either way, I think it's awesome that someone asked you out. Someone thinks you're great! I'm sure the date will be tough because of your SA but it's a way to start getting used to the situation.
Try doing some kind of physical exercise before the date. Either something high impact like cardio or calming like yoga. That way you can already reduce your stress level before you meet up with him.
And he probably won't care that you've never kissed anyone. If he does see it as something negative, then he's not the guy for you anyway.
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I also wouldn't worry much about your lack of experience. I stressed out about that, too, but found it was really a non-issue for just about everyone except me.
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Either way, I think it's awesome that someone asked you out. Someone thinks you're great! I'm sure the date will be tough because of your SA but it's a way to start getting used to the situation.
Try doing some kind of physical exercise before the date. Either something high impact like cardio or calming like yoga. That way you can already reduce your stress level before you meet up with him.
And he probably won't care that you've never kissed anyone. If he does see it as something negative, then he's not the guy for you anyway.
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