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[sodapopsmash]

How does one go about conquering jealousy and insecurity?

When, in my relationship, will i stop wondering when i am going to be cheated on, when i am going to be lied to, when i am going to be left behind?

I want to feel at ease so fucking bad. I can't handle always being on edge.

Comments

[xmanchildx]

Trust takes time. When coming from a flux of relationships where most had certain specific issues come up, its hard to break away from the habit of figuring they will ALWAYS come up. Eventually, if the relationship is the right one for you, then you'll realize that your significant other isn't going to do those things just because a few others did prior to this one.

On the other hand, its 2:20 in the morning, so I might just be rambling...

[sodapopsmash]

thanks myc..

i am really hoping at some point I won't even have these thoughts anymore. that I will evetually be able to become confident enough in my relationships to never question them. old habits die hard. in the meantime, i need to find more effective ways of dealing with those feelings because it really isn't fair to the people on the other end.

[mezcal]

True security comes from within yourself and is independent of the amount of time or trust you have in a relationship. If you are insecure about yourself, you will be insecure about everything, even when another person gives you no reason to feel so. But if you are secure, you will not be as hurt even if you are cheated and lied to, because you will know that you deserve better

[whipstikagostop]

it won't stop. but you reach a level of trust with the person or level of self respect in yourself that when the situation does happen, if it does... you handle it better and won't break as easily.

that is why i don't do relationships anymore. because i'm tired of over thinking these things when really i'm ruining the time i could be having with someone special.