I'm hoping you can help me or have thoughts on reoccurring dreams I've been having. I've been looking online for the meaning behind dreams for some insight but coming up with nothing
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"Until recently.." does that mean you stopped having them? When?
I'd say a lot more information is needed..you mention dreaming about them, but not the content.
Also, while feelings about them is the obvious place to go, one way of interpreting dreams is "every one/thing in the dream is you." It can be enlightening to look at in that lens, if they treat you certain ways, etc, in the dreams.
Hi mellyjc, I meant to say I started having these dreams and constantly. They are not all necessarily sexual by nature but I am around them or watching them. They never mistreat me and are "happy dreams." Since I wrote the entry, I found an article saying that subconsciously I am missing qualities in previous partners that my current one doesn't possess. That may be right as sometimes I feel I had more in common with the ones that got away. Only difference is my new partner adores me and wants a future together. Big contrast.
Now I need to ask you and the community this, how do I stop these reoccurring dreams as I wake up either missing them or feeling guilty/confused?
Recurring dreams can be addressed by writing them out - then writing your own/different ending. This is empowering for dreams that are scary, or to situations like this, can help bring closure, especially if there's a pattern to where you get "stuck" or the dreams end.
It may also be interesting/useful to look at the contrast- is there part of you that's resistant to being adored and wanting a future together? (Subconsciously feeling you don't deserve it? Fear of commitment? etc)
It's also OK to miss past partners, acknowledge what was great about them. The more they are acknowledged, the more they can be worked through so they don't come up in dreams. Maybe you need to write letters (not TO the partners, but for the sake of writing them) saying goodbye to it all- good, bad, all of it. Our society tends to be great about avoiding closure, even though it's important.
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I'd say a lot more information is needed..you mention dreaming about them, but not the content.
Also, while feelings about them is the obvious place to go, one way of interpreting dreams is "every one/thing in the dream is you." It can be enlightening to look at in that lens, if they treat you certain ways, etc, in the dreams.
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Since I wrote the entry, I found an article saying that subconsciously I am missing qualities in previous partners that my current one doesn't possess. That may be right as sometimes I feel I had more in common with the ones that got away. Only difference is my new partner adores me and wants a future together. Big contrast.
Now I need to ask you and the community this, how do I stop these reoccurring dreams as I wake up either missing them or feeling guilty/confused?
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It may also be interesting/useful to look at the contrast- is there part of you that's resistant to being adored and wanting a future together? (Subconsciously feeling you don't deserve it? Fear of commitment? etc)
It's also OK to miss past partners, acknowledge what was great about them. The more they are acknowledged, the more they can be worked through so they don't come up in dreams. Maybe you need to write letters (not TO the partners, but for the sake of writing them) saying goodbye to it all- good, bad, all of it. Our society tends to be great about avoiding closure, even though it's important.
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