Just random stuff, I guess... yay

[son_of_darkness]

To preface, I consider myself Demisexual. The definition I go by is “Someone who is basically Asexual most of the time and doesn’t experience sexual desire or attraction to a person UNLESS a deep, emotional and romantic connection is formed and established first.”

Randomly, I was thinking about it on the way home, and felt the need to ramble a

Comments

[meredyth_13]

Hey, you!

You know, that all makes a lot of sense. And I guess puts a lot of the past into context, as a friend who's watched you grow up and explore who you are (at least, a little bit).

I think the upside of self-exploration and understanding is that we stop judging ourselves for behaviours that don't seem to fit the 'norm' or what we see around us. Acceptance of our own 'norm' is really fundamental to contentment, I think. And makes going into new relationships (whatever they are) a more honest prospect.

*hugs you*

[son_of_darkness]

Hey :D

Yeah, a lot of things in my past did seem to kinda fall into place when I realised a lot of this stuff. Honestly, there is a part of me that kinda wishes I *did* experience sexual desire or attraction to people, because it would open up a lot more... I dunno... potential for intimacy? I do like intimacy, and when I'm in a relationship with someone, sex becomes part of intimacy, but I need SO MANY specific things from a person before I can begin to feel in any way intimate with them (even non-sexually intimate) that I've pretty much reached the point of resigning myself to being single forever. xD And I'm not even all that upset about it.

[lokifan]

This is a great post. ♥ It's not surprising you didn't put it together - it just points to the invisibility of the asexuality spectrum. Bisexuality isn't nearly as invisible - and it's still super invisible, so I had kind of a similar thing, where I properly found out what the B in LGBT was when I was sixteen and was like '...oh. Oh. Wow, yeah, in retrospect, OBVIOUSLY.'

[hot_jupiters]

I'm so late to this post and currently talking to you about it on Discord, but I just wanted to comment to say that I love you so, so much and am extremely proud of you for looking so deeply into yourself! Extremely good friends indeed. <3