Comments | songbird44: now I'm almost sure

songbird44

now I'm almost sure

Feb 22, 2009 00:05

I am almost completely sure now that Russ is avoiding me. He waited until after I'd RSVP'd with a "no" to Sue's Oscar party to say that he was planning to come. He even made a joke about showing up in a designer gown, which indicates to me that he was in quite a good mood when he RSVP'd ( Read more... )

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... mwetmore February 25 2009, 22:54:01 UTC

You can always take steps to have the relationship you want with him, instead of guessing...

the logical response! songbird44 February 25 2009, 23:02:31 UTC

Of course you're right. I'm tentative about saying anything to him, partly because I don't want to be a pest if he really wants to keep me at a distance, and mostly because I'm not really sure what kind of relationship I want to have with him. (Add that to my to-do list, to figure that out.) For right now, I guess distance is okay, although I do miss him at times.

Re: the logical response! mwetmore February 26 2009, 00:46:46 UTC

But inaction is just so compelling and easy... (and trust me, this is the pot calling the kettle names...)

This has shades of familiarity to sorting out long term friendship with Kathryn. We were friends for ages, dated for a bit, then had to figure out something for the long term. Took a *lot* of work and pain on both sides. No guarantees you'll have a partner on the other side to that work, but here's my hope you will. You're both awesome people. And, in my particular situation, the pay off was worth it...

Re: the logical response! songbird44 February 26 2009, 00:54:34 UTC

Well, thank you for the kind words and the vote of confidence. Maybe the time is coming in which I have to sort things out with him, and this line of thinking is just the start.

We *did* promise each other that we wanted to remain friends no matter how the dating thing ended. Might be a good idea to think about what "friends" means.