So, here is a question that really isn't just a question to poke holes:
What is wrong with being objectified? You are, after all, an object, what with having mass and taking up a portion of space. Is this, by itself, a bad thing?
My new plan of action: Some asshole dude: "Hey you're really hot!" Me, politely: "I don't appreciate being objectified."
THANK YOU! Someone else who doesn't just say "thanks". It's not a compliment. Though, I usually either ignore them or say "No". Or "Stay away from me" if they're coming toward me, which is sometimes the case.
Fat chicks only get hit on by drunk guys, and if you're menacing enough they usually just call you a bitch and leave. At least that's my experience.
What'd you learn about Kitty Genovese in your class? The bystander effect is one of those places where I don't trust most intro textbooks to get it right, especially when referencing her. Her story was about the media, not about bystanders failing to help a woman in need. See here for a bit of a discussion of it.
The actual research on the bystander effect is fascinating and very confusing as to the nature of people's willingness to help people in need.
We learned about the audience inhibition effect, pluralistic ignorance, and diffusion of responsibility. I am more skeptical about the audience inhibition effect, but I have seen and heard of other instances where pluralistic ignorance and the diffusion of responsibility have taken place
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The folks who went back in the 80s and 90s and looked at the witness statements suggest that none of those effects took place in this particular story. Only two people saw a knife. Both called the police. Only a few people understood her to be screaming. Nobody saw the entire attack.
Wikipedia's page is actually a lot closer to the revisions than the original Times story, which is what it used to have years ago when I first looked at it.
As a response to an unsolicited "you're hot" I like: *grin* "true." *bike away*
the one guy in a hundred who's making a sincere compliment won't get offended by this. everyone else is going to feel a little bit beaten. it's a classic tactic that may not be helping society overall...but it's fun.
okay, but actually the last person who approached me like that got elbowed in the stomach and shot down with the calm negative command. I play it less coy with people I don't suspect of being genuinely mean. also I didn't have a bike at the time.
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What is wrong with being objectified?
You are, after all, an object, what with having mass and taking up a portion of space. Is this, by itself, a bad thing?
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Some asshole dude: "Hey you're really hot!"
Me, politely: "I don't appreciate being objectified."
THANK YOU! Someone else who doesn't just say "thanks". It's not a compliment. Though, I usually either ignore them or say "No". Or "Stay away from me" if they're coming toward me, which is sometimes the case.
Fat chicks only get hit on by drunk guys, and if you're menacing enough they usually just call you a bitch and leave. At least that's my experience.
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This is why you're the best.
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The actual research on the bystander effect is fascinating and very confusing as to the nature of people's willingness to help people in need.
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Wikipedia's page is actually a lot closer to the revisions than the original Times story, which is what it used to have years ago when I first looked at it.
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I like: *grin* "true." *bike away*
the one guy in a hundred who's making a sincere compliment won't get offended by this. everyone else is going to feel a little bit beaten. it's a classic tactic that may not be helping society overall...but it's fun.
okay, but actually the last person who approached me like that got elbowed in the stomach and shot down with the calm negative command. I play it less coy with people I don't suspect of being genuinely mean. also I didn't have a bike at the time.
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