Comments | sophiedbarker: Mom

sophiedbarker

Mom

Mar 29, 2005 20:47

My mom died about a month and a half ago. I've been thinking so much, so hard about her, about life. The whole thing, this dying thing, is so odd. I've never been close to anyone who's died before, it's been hard and it's been sad, but mostly now it's just odd. Odd how the world closes in around the hole that she left, odd how quickly we ( Read more... )

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death and the after.... cargrem March 30 2005, 13:26:23 UTC

hi hon:

On May 28, it will be two years for me... this grieving thing is such a friggin process... so many ups and downs... maybe the whole afterlife thing evolved as a way to help the ones left here to cope with the horror that the loved one is gone... never to be seen again... reincarnation is also a good metaphore... they are already back here somewhere...maybe you could actually find them again...the myth that is helping me to cope with the finality of my mom's being gone forever is that she is actually with me somehow.. esp. when i need her... like when i went for my annual exam yesterday, (hate going to the doctor), or when i am wearing an outfit i know she would like ( i pretend she is telling me approving things that only she could say and i would receive in that way...)
keep going through the process hon, and contact me if you ever want to talk....
love you

Re: death and the after.... sophiedbarker March 30 2005, 14:52:24 UTC

Thanks sweetie. It's such a weird public/private thing to do. It's so intensely personal and at the same time you are just out there, hanging out there in the world. Thanks so much for your support and love.

death.... farmgirl23 March 30 2005, 20:57:40 UTC

My mother has a old photo showing me at 18 months. I am standing there squinting at the camera standing(swimming) in my father's cowboy boots. His old boots came up to my thighs. I am smiling at my accomplishment, dad is grinning, proudly holding my hand and balancing me ( ... )

Re: death.... sophiedbarker March 30 2005, 21:37:54 UTC

Thanks so much for sharing. It's hard, but it's amazing.

When I read the post, I was like, who the hell is this? Then I figured it out. Will mail you later tonight.

Thanks again, it means so much to hear other's stories.