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Tonight im going to the NGHS .vs. PRHS with Kristen
and woo i get to see my Bree baby :) woop woop hehe
but yeh anyways ive been here all day and did more stuff on my enneagram tehe
2
- I knew deep down I was always good.
- I loved my father, but I didn’t like him sometimes.
- It felt like I was always giving more than I received.
- I went out of my way to be nice so everyone would love me.
- I tried harder to please people when they were disappointed in me, especially my dad.
- Why didn’t everyone love me the way I loved them?
- It felt really good to be needed, until they took advantage of my generosity.
- I believe I always gave out good advice.
- I was the best friend anyone could ever have.
- Many times I went out of my way to help others.
- There was never enough love for me.
- Others saw me as kind and good.
Enneagram Type 2
Average 2s think: “A friend in need is a friend indeed!” If your fear is of being alone, find yourself an average 2, on the borderline of being unhealthy. As long as you say thank you and let them know you need them around, they’ll be there. You might feel smothered at times, but you’ll never feel lonely! One thing for sure, though: try to give them what they want on occasion and if you can’t read their minds, ask them until they tell you.
Although they can run out of steam, an average to unhealthy 2 would never admit to exhaustion, so you can count on them to volunteer at the slightest cry for help. They do have limits however, and you don’t want to be in their way when they feel taken for granted.
2s are genuinely good and believe this to be the case no matter which health pattern they’re experiencing. What we are dealing with here is the energy of unconditional love on the healthy side. Pure, sweet, and saintly, our healthy 2 friends are the most loving humans you’ll ever meet.
Helpers who need to be needed
People of this personality type essentially feel that they are worthy insofar as they are helpful to others. Love is their highest ideal. Selflessness is their duty. Giving to others is their reason for being. Involved, socially aware, usually extroverted, Twos are the type of people who remember everyone's birthday and who go the extra mile to help out a co-worker, spouse or friend in need.
Twos are warm, emotional people who care a great deal about their personal relationships, devote an enormous amount of energy to them, and who expect to be appreciated for their efforts. They are practical people who thrive in the helping professions and who know how to make a home comfortable and inviting. Helping others makes Twos feel good about themselves; being needed makes them feel important; being selfless, makes Twos feel virtuous. Much of a Two's self-image revolves around these issues, and any threat to that self-image is scarcely tolerated. Twos are thoroughly convinced of their selflessness, and it is true that they are frequently genuinely helpful and concerned about others. It is equally true, however, that Twos require appreciation; they need to be needed. Their love is not entirely without ulterior motive.
Twos often develop a sense of entitlement when it comes to the people closest to them. Because they have extended themselves for others, they begin to feel that gratitude is owed to them. They can become intrusive and demanding if their often unacknowledged emotional needs go unmet.The darkest side of the type Two fixation appears when the Two begins to feel that they will never receive the love they deserve for all of their efforts.
Because Twos are generally helping others meet their needs, they can forget to take care of their own. This can lead to physical burnout, emotional exhaustion and emotional volatility. Twos need to learn that they can only be of true service to others if they are healthy, balanced and centered in themselves.
Twos can mistype themselves if they are not in an obvious helper role in their professional lives; they might not recognize the extent of their involvement in assisting others. This is especially true for male Twos, who have not received the same social rewards for helping as female Twos receive. Male Twos frequently mistype as ones or threes, the wings of type Two. Females, of all types, are bound to recognize some of the dynamics of type Two in their personalities, as such qualities have been socially reinforced. Female nines, for instance, are especially prone to mistyping as Twos, particularly if they are the mothers of small children. But Nines are self-effacing and humble; Twos are proud and have a strong sense of their own worth.
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