Comments | soul_of_galatea: Advice please

soul_of_galatea

Advice please

Feb 03, 2006 10:37

Ok, I am having a bit a dilemma. I am sure its all in my head and rather stupid but I still need advice. Say you have a friend...a pretty good friend at that and this friend is constantly saying or doing something that drives you nuts, and really hurts your feelings. Ok lets also say that you are probably overly sensitive already and are ( Read more... )

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shadowknight42 February 3 2006, 16:57:05 UTC

I guess it depends on the subject, and if it really bothers you that much...tell them, but be somewhat gentle about it.

j00 February 4 2006, 23:53:36 UTC

Tell them. "It makes me uncomfortable when you talk about ____ because..." Tell them that you value them as a friend, but this one thing just gets you every time, so could they find a way to not mention it to you?

:hug: hope that helps. you can also just ignore me if you like. ;)

soul_of_galatea February 5 2006, 03:49:46 UTC

Wonderful advice as usual! ^_^ Thank you so much, you always seems to know what to tell me. Thank you! *hugs*

chunk of beth brain matter firyrainbowchic February 6 2006, 14:41:48 UTC

well if it is something that is really bugging you to the point of insanity. let the person know that it is. try and present the issue in a neutral matter as possible. if not possible use whatever means you find available. if the way it comes out is on the not so nice side if they are a true friend they will understand it and adjust to the news and try not to repeat the behavior or bring whatever it is up. bitter honesty is better than sugar coated lies. if this said "friend" is me deary you know that i would rather you smite me with a frying pan for my stupidy than have you internalize it and go nutzy.
i love ya babe
beth