Just in time for World AIDS Day...

[soul_spider]

The other night I checked out a profile on Bear411 that contained a blog link. I looked at the blog, and it referenced another blog that is geared toward the men who enjoy bareback sex. I am not a person who would engage in bareback sex outside of a monogamous relationship, but I have to admit that I have a little morbid fascination with the

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[paterson_si]

Oh, that's heavy stuff. Really makes you think about the state of mind of many, many guys out there. Sharing possible death shouldn't be hobby nor fun. And "punishing" the ones who managed to get away with it is just....... I really don't know what to say. Really don't.

[soul_spider]

Yeah, that's my knee-jerk reaction, but I don't know how else to react to guys who knowingly expose others to the virus. Knowingly engaging in any risky behavior that could result in the deaths of other people needs to be punished.

Of course, I would never want ALL HIV+ people to be punished. Accidents happen. Bad choices can be made in the heat of the moment. My issue is with those who make a lifestyle out of it.

From wikipedia: Reckless endangerment: A person commits the crime of reckless endangerment if the person recklessly engages in conduct which creates a substantial risk of serious physical injury to another person. “Reckless” conduct is conduct that exhibits a culpable disregard of foreseeable consequences to others from the act or omission involved. The accused need not intentionally cause a resulting harm or know that his conduct is substantially certain to cause that result. The ultimate question is whether, under all the circumstances, the accused’s conduct was of that heedless nature that made it actually or

[jay_pop]

I feel sick after reading that. It is really a culture of death, brutal perversion.

[soul_spider]

It's very upsetting.

[goofycubb]

Bug chasers and the likes have always confused me. I remember coming out at 15-16 years old (back in the early 90's) and going to parties and the next party I had lost serveral friends. I grew up in a time when it was still unknown. I feel very lucky after all the stunts I have pulled to be free from it, but I could not imagine someone going looking for it, or someone intentionally trying to give it to someone. It boggles my mind! And I can't believe that there are websites dedicated to it. I don't get some people.

[soul_spider]

Bug chasers are another creature that you hope is imaginary, but the discussions in those boards I linked to... whew. One talked about a man who had been ordered by his "master" to only masturbate while thinking about a time he had been exposed to the HIV virus in order to get him to fetishize the idea of exposure. Mind-boggling indeed.

[dendren]

wow... I'm always a tidge hesitant to respond to these sorts of things being poz and definitely not the poster child for always being safe when I play. But at least I do let my partners know ahead of time so they can make their own decisions. But... I know quite a few guys who aren't open and truthful. Your last line about being careful is such an understatement. I can't tell you how many times I've heard stories of one guy thinking "he didn't say he was poz so we can bareback" and the other thinking "oh, he's letting me bareback so he must already be poz". Or just plain "he said he was negative". I used to hear this over and over when I was doing HIV testing/counceling.

Ugh... and you know, the profiles that say tested "clean" or Neg in Aug 2009 or whatever like that's going to somehow prove they aren't infected.... give me a fucking break. What have they done since? They were always the ones I knew I'd see in the clinic at some point :P

[soul_spider]

I certainly wouldn't throw stones at men who are not perfectly careful 100% of the time, regardless of their status. People get caught up in the act and it's human to make mistakes.

What horrifies me is the idea of poz men being deceitful about their status in order to have unprotected sex with men that they believe are negative. And then feeling so good about it that they band together online in order to brag and share tips about their techniques.

[dendren]

it should be horrifying to you. The things I read on that blog are way above and beyond anything I've encountered. Like I said, I do know many who have lied by ommision, even me a time or two I'm sad to admit. There are *so* many gay men barebacking out there, way more than you'd probably even have a clue. Honestly, I think it's easier to find someone who doesn't use condoms than someone who does so I truly do not get these guys who prey on those who really do want to play safe. It's just plain sick scary and sad to me.

[cajuncountry]

Very sad that this is going on. It just freaks me out to think that some folks think this acceptable behaviour, and it's someone else's fault for their own deceitful actions.