Living Together

Aug 08, 2003 20:59

I saw a report on CNN saying that people who live together before they get married have a higher divorce rate. I have read other polls that say the same thing ( Read more... )

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eh... allstarchic August 8 2003, 18:14:40 UTC
I'm going to have to agree with you on this one, I don't get the polls either but either way, not everyone ends up getting a divorce so stats don't matter anyways.

<3 Beth

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Re: eh... southpaw1028 August 11 2003, 17:39:14 UTC
MY theory behind this is...

I think the reason behind those numbers is that it is ususally serious Christians (Protestant and/or Catholics) and Orthodox Jews who don't believe in living together before they are married.

Those heavily religious people also believe that divorce is wrong, evil, and a sin, so they will work hard to save a bad marriage instead of just going to divorce court.

On the other hand, those that live together, are generally not that serious about their religion so they don't care as much about holding a bad marriage together b/c they don't see divorce as that bad or a sin or anything like that...

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xxprincezzxx August 8 2003, 20:03:42 UTC
my thoughts are...

It all depends how strongly you both feel for each others.

How much patience you can handle...
etc etc

My uncle was with my aunt for whoaaaaaaaaaa sooo long dating, married....and divorced

i lived with my ex....about to get married, boom gone!

It all depends if the love is really there to last, eh who knows

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mooncancer August 9 2003, 08:33:36 UTC
I think people who don't live together before marriage are more open minded about each other's idiosyncracies. Because if couples live together awhile, they'll start to think they know why he did this and why she did that--which can potentially lead to misunderstandings and fights.

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mooncancer August 9 2003, 08:36:04 UTC
hmm... actually that finding isn't really new. It's been circulating in the social sci. area for quite a few years--and I'm pretty sure that finding was released back then too.

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southpaw1028 August 11 2003, 17:40:32 UTC
I know that those findings aren't new. I've heard them before and have always wondered about it.

I have a theory behind it too...

I think the reason behind those numbers is that it is ususally serious Christians (Protestant and/or Catholics) and Orthodox Jews who don't believe in living together before they are married.

Those heavily religious people also believe that divorce is wrong, evil, and a sin, so they will work hard to save a bad marriage instead of just going to divorce court.

On the other hand, those that live together, are generally not that serious about their religion so they don't care as much about holding a bad marriage together b/c they don't see divorce as that bad or a sin or anything like that...

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un4givable August 9 2003, 11:49:23 UTC
That does seem kind of backwards, but then again people don't always make sense soooo who knows.

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My Theory southpaw1028 August 11 2003, 17:41:18 UTC
MY theory behind this is...

I think the reason behind those numbers is that it is ususally serious Christians (Protestant and/or Catholics) and Orthodox Jews who don't believe in living together before they are married.

Those heavily religious people also believe that divorce is wrong, evil, and a sin, so they will work hard to save a bad marriage instead of just going to divorce court.

On the other hand, those that live together, are generally not that serious about their religion so they don't care as much about holding a bad marriage together b/c they don't see divorce as that bad or a sin or anything like that...

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Re: My Theory un4givable August 11 2003, 21:04:04 UTC
True! Very true. Its a good point and may be right. Interesting. I never thought of it like that

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Re: My Theory southpaw1028 August 15 2003, 14:14:35 UTC
That's the only explanationt hat I can come up with...

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