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[sparklexmotion]

Welcome back. I'm just going to jump right into this months thought. As a Christian woman, I believe that it is important for me to "train" to be a great wife. That might sound a lot lamer than I actually intended it to, but basically, I am preparing myself to fully stand behind my husband. It might be extremely unfeminist of me to not want to be

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[sheisyrmarrow]

marriages fall apart for all sorts of reasons. i'm sure it is true to say that your potential husband would feel hurt if you tried to "outdo" him, but i think any wife could easily feel the same when her husband's goals/successes exceed her own- i don't think males corner the market on resentment! on another note, i think that maybe expecting the husband to be the breadwinner can cause the husband to feel pressured, or like he has to attain some goal that might be unrealistic for him. i think men can also feel respected and needed for things other than their breadwinning, too. i think that something that christian women would do well to consider is the fact that being a good christian wife DOES mean supporting your husband in all ways, of course, but certainly doesn't mean allowing your husband to think he is "supreme" because of that- husbands are called to love their wives as christ loved the church (a.k.a. the body of believers)- and christ gave up EVERYTHING for the church. also, touching on feminism, i don't think what

[sparklexmotion]

Nicole, I enjoy your thoughts but I think you took my entry the wrong way. I am not by any means sacrificing myself NOW for a husdband that I don't even have. I'm not saying that women should "forget college" because they don't need it. I also think that women CAN be the breadwinner and should be if their husband is going to support that and not feel un-needed. I'm reading this book now and it's amazing to the inner lives of men and what they're really feeling. It's definitely preparing me for relationships on all levels and it's Christianity based

[anonymous]

I don't really feel like the issue here has a lot to really "argue" with. having "intense career goals", whether that means making money, traveling, promotions, or anything else, is really about priority and understanding where God's will is, if you look at it from a Christian perspective. I do feel that the Lord DEFINITELY calls certain people to high vocational callings, the Bible is clear what our calling is- "I have shown you, o man, what is good and what the Lord requires of you- to do justly, love mercy, and to walk humbly with your God" (Micah 6:8). I think that I have intense career goals- meaning, I'm reall passionate about what I want to do. but I don't think that being a devoted social worker is my "calling"; I think it's something God has called me to do but I'd never put that specific goal on par with a calling. even for those people God calls to specific ministry-oriented jobs- missionaries, pastors, even martyrs- I'd even question whether or not that is a "calling" or an occupation- because our only calling really is to

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[jnstange]

Erin,

You've allowed yourself to get out of the "update groove."