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[speckledrose]

So I'm not even sure if anyone remembers I have this, and I'm not even really looking for comments. But I need to get my thoughts down

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[kashira]

It's really awesome you've gotten far enough where a PhD is even something in your realm of very likely possibility, so congrats on that if nothing else. In the end though, I honestly think it's best to live for yourself... I can understand not wanting to disappoint your mom, but this is your life and you only get to live it once. You'll be happiest if you do what you want to do most and not what other people want you to do. At least, that's how I feel. It might be possible for you to work on getting your doctorate later in life... maybe not though, but it might not be worth pushing yourself for if you're already feeling burned out on it. I wouldn't know, and it's hard to say how life will work out.
I just wish you luck in finding the best decision.

[leiaos13]

It is wrong of Mom to think that way, and even more wrong of her to tell you. Do what you want to do. If you want to wait a few years, wait. If you want to have children first, do it. It's not impossible to get your doctorate later, many people do. I have a similar problem, with the burning out and all, and the age thing. The kids part, so far no, but who knows what will happen. Don't worry about how old you are, even with the kids thing, you can always adopt or whatever. I know none of this solves your problem, but maybe something will help a little. Like Melissa said, do what you want, not what Mom wants. Don't worry about letting her down, it's not her life, it's yours. In this part of your life, she has no say.