Comments | speyriver: the ugly duckling

speyriver

the ugly duckling

Sep 14, 2006 01:33

I've been trying really hard to follow through with what I keep being told by everyone. That you have to like the way you look, and be confident in the way you look, before anyone else will find you attractive. But I just can't do it. It's such a lie ( Read more... )

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jubilee124 September 14 2006, 14:32:30 UTC

I've always wanted to be the pretty girl. Probably because I've always been the fat friend of the super hot girl. I always thought if I could just lose weight then maybe, just maybe... But I lost weight, and I still don't get to be the hot girl. I get to be the interesting girl, the photographer, the good friend, even the fag hag... There are many things that I get to be... but the hot girl isn't one of them.I hear ya girl...I've always had the thought in my head "if I could only get skinny then I'd be beautiful and people would love me" blah blah blah...but no matter how much weight I lose I still feel like I look exactly the same as I always have ( ... )

speyriver September 15 2006, 06:12:57 UTC

thanks Hol :) I know I'm just being shallow... and that I'm lucky to have other qualities to offer... but sometimes I wonder what it would feel like to be lusted after.

jubilee124 September 15 2006, 15:48:00 UTC

I think it's ok to be shallow every now and then and really who doesn't want to be lusted after?

God knows I've been going through a big shallow wallow around and feel sorry for myself cause I'll never be good enough time lately. LOL

leagueofone September 15 2006, 18:47:21 UTC

"going through a big shallow wallow around and feel sorry for myself cause I'll never be good enough"

hey me too!

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jenday September 14 2006, 17:48:45 UTC

yeah. but fuck all that. if people don't like me they can eat a dick. i don't want a shallow, vapid dude anyway.

but it still hurts to be overlooked when out in public. :(

i have a hot sister. it sucks. she looks ALMOST just like me... why is she hot and I'm not?!

speyriver September 15 2006, 06:14:01 UTC

it's never really clear, is it? why one person is hot, and another very similar one is not. I don't have siblings, but I think about that when I look at myself a lot of the time.

dewinter September 14 2006, 19:26:25 UTC

haha! Well I'm that sad little duck in the back of the lake with half his feathers plucked out and looks like he wants to drown himself.

We may not become sawns but we must remember this: We have to live with ourselves the rest of our lives. We can either love ourselves or hate ourselves. And hate is toxic and negative thoughts and feelings affect physical reality.

Dr. Masaru Emoto did an interesting study of water and how it was affected by positive an negative words. Under a microscope you could see the difference between the two and was kinda eerie. Now scientists aren't accepting much of his study, but it's an interesting thought... We are 70% water... If negative thoughts can change water, what can words and thoughts do to us?

Check out this website: http://www.whatthebleep.com/crystals/ (Which is also a link to an interesting documentary as well)

~Jaime

speyriver September 15 2006, 06:14:21 UTC

I have that documentary :)

angpoo September 15 2006, 04:42:50 UTC

killer thing is supposedly girls like us outway the skinny eating disorder girls....millions and kabillions of people dont look like the image on tv....why no one like hollister, gap, limited, american eagle, dont just accept the bigger person is beyond me...I might want cute name brand stuff.....but since they dont accomadate for us screw em...I will spend my money else where...there loss......I am right up there with ya on the self image thing I also have to find a way to get over that...but I too am kinda like...ummm...how do I do that????.....From over here at my end I think you are a very beautiful person from all the pics I have seen...and never let anyone tell u otherwise....if they do they r the ugly one......

speyriver September 15 2006, 06:15:17 UTC

thanks Ang :)
pictures can lie though... hahahaahah....!

leagueofone September 15 2006, 05:47:08 UTC

In elementary school some asshat thought a good nickname for me would be medusa. Thus I grew up being the ugly kid and feeling very inferior to my pretty sister. That is until grade 11, when though I had not really changed, people around me changed and suddenly I was attractive ( ... )

speyriver September 15 2006, 06:19:22 UTC

you don't sound conceited... I've seen you... you're hot! :)
sure the guys are still asshats (great word btw)... but doesn't it feel better to get attention than to be ignored?

I've never had any serious relationships. I'm 24, and I've never really had a boyfriend... or at least one that cared about me. I've never been pursued. I've never been hit on. I've never been desired.
I'm not saying that I want a boyfriend... but I wish I thought it was possible.

the whole accept yourself or no one will thing, though... here's the problem with that theory. I'm around models and actors a lot, and there's a ton of them who really don't think they're good looking at all. And yet, even though they don't like themselves.... everyone else still thinks they're hot. It's a loophole :)

leagueofone September 15 2006, 18:35:24 UTC

the grass is always greener eh?
Well my perspective is probably not different to most others. I moved to HK when I was 11, and most white people are stared at. I soon learnt about unwanted attention. Here and in HK, I've been followed by creeps many times, and a lot of the time I just want to go about my business unnoticed. Being on display is nerve wracking and just uncomfortable.

I don't know that envy of actors and models is a good idea. As you say even though they don't like themselves, everyone thinks they're hot. Well is that a good place to be? Is that healthy? Just because someone thinks you are hot, does not mean they accept you.

In any case, the people I find beautiful, are the ones that are confident.