Gah! This post makes me twitchy for all kinds of reasons!
My guess is she's going the passive aggressive route because she doesn't want to take responsibility for her lack of communication skills. And not just with you. I mean, if you don't send out invitations, what the hell do you think the turnout is going to be?! It's not exactly a word of mouth event!
It sucks big time that she took advantage of you re: the dress. But really, if she's not willing to sort that out, what the hell does she think your reaction will be to the other wedding-y stuff? A relationship is bound to cool off after something like that if it isn't addressed.
You reap what you sow, I guess. Be a shitty friend, expect to be treated like a shitty friend. Although you really aren't. It sounds like you've been giving her the benefit of the doubt, which I absolutely can appreciate having been on her side of wedding brain, but she's going to need to deal with her shit or expect it to hit the fan.
I really hope her partner knows what he's getting into.
Her husband actually seems to be contributing to the problem-- understandably, it's hard for her to communicate because he said they couldn't afford 2 phones, so he shut hers off. They also don't have internet. So, her only way of communicating is through him, and he sucks at relaying messages.
We also found out yesterday that they told everyone else that we weren't even in the bridal party anymore, because they hadn't heard from us about it in so long, when we've been trying to get more information out of them for quite a few weeks...
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My guess is she's going the passive aggressive route because she doesn't want to take responsibility for her lack of communication skills. And not just with you. I mean, if you don't send out invitations, what the hell do you think the turnout is going to be?! It's not exactly a word of mouth event!
It sucks big time that she took advantage of you re: the dress. But really, if she's not willing to sort that out, what the hell does she think your reaction will be to the other wedding-y stuff? A relationship is bound to cool off after something like that if it isn't addressed.
You reap what you sow, I guess. Be a shitty friend, expect to be treated like a shitty friend. Although you really aren't. It sounds like you've been giving her the benefit of the doubt, which I absolutely can appreciate having been on her side of wedding brain, but she's going to need to deal with her shit or expect it to hit the fan.
I really hope her partner knows what he's getting into.
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We also found out yesterday that they told everyone else that we weren't even in the bridal party anymore, because they hadn't heard from us about it in so long, when we've been trying to get more information out of them for quite a few weeks...
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