Comments | spriite: Am I ungrateful?

spriite

Am I ungrateful?

Aug 26, 2009 20:38

I've always thought that life was more about giving what you could, when you could, and trying in your own life to make yourself into a consistent and honest person who is able to give more and more of themselves. I've never really thought that worrying about how much of what you give is returned to you was a very productive use of time or mental ( Read more... )

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niki112be September 1 2009, 20:26:07 UTC

Well, I've known a girl like that. She said I was too nice. That people should only do something for a person if the other person's already done something for them. And that she would do something for another person but expects the person to do something back. If not, then she won't be giving anymore.

I was so surprised when she told me... Anyway, I don't like to 'keep scores'. I don't want to live like that. Thinking this person owes me this and that and... I just can't be bothered. I don't want to let people take advantage of me though.

spriite September 3 2009, 06:54:16 UTC

It's funny actually, because the person I'm thinking of in this entry has actually told me the same, that I'm too nice. I suppose I took it as a compliment at the time but maybe they really did mean it...

I can't be bothered to keep scores either... it seems like a waste of energy, but I suppose the drawback of this is that maybe it takes me a little longer to realize when my kindness or patience is being taken advantage of. Sometimes I think I give people too many chances, and maybe I do that because I'd really just like to hold onto the hope that they aren't bad. I dunno.

niki112be September 3 2009, 10:33:52 UTC

Well, I think it's better to give people a few more chances than almost none.

I gradually give people more chances. I give and see what I get, not expecting anything/the same thing back but depending on how they behave overall, I decide to give more or less or nothing at all.

tygrrtwo September 2 2009, 14:42:08 UTC

On the other hand, I'm so used to living with polite people and receiving regular nods of thanks or acknowledgement for little things I've given (a place in line at the grocery store for someone who has just 1 thing, holding a door, etc) that since moving to New York, I've suddenly become very much a tallier: people where I live now are quite rude and boorish, quite used to accepting what is given to them as some sort of god given right ( ... )

spriite September 3 2009, 06:47:31 UTC

I understand what you mean about being taken advantage of. That never feels good and I like you, continue to hope that there are good people out there, and let the 1-item dude in front of me. Occasionally I do feel the sadder for having the faith in people that I do though, particularly when it shows up in front of my face that there are people who are quite the opposite. There are a lot of people out there who really seem to feel 'entitled' to everything, and I find it shocking ( ... )