Oh, god. YES to all of this. I'd forgotten so much of this, but it all came roaring back to me reading your entry. Pregnancy - I think I underestimated the aches and pains associated with it. The loosening of the ligaments causing hip and joint pain, the annoying pains in the lady parts, the heaviness and uncomfortableness. And then crown that with being *unable* to sleep either because the baby is moving, you are hurting or can't find a comfortable position, the heartburn/food in the throat feeling
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Thanks for the validation. Not knowing anyone in town who's going through the same has made me constantly question whether or not I'm legit having a hard time or being weak. I definitely underestimated all the aches and pains. I mean, everything was fine until we moved, and then WHAM. I'm just thankful I can work from home, otherwise I would probably try to leave early, which would be a disaster because every project ever is due on Oct 1st. Hah. Hopefully she's not super early. :)
I worked until my due date and REALLY regretted it. I was angry and miserable and completely unproductive. After my due date I had 11 days at home and I forced myself to walk 20 minutes/day but otherwise I napped and watched bad TV.
If you can stop working sooner, do it.
I really don't understand the biology of making the end of the 3rd trimester so miserable and then you spend the first months after birth super sleep-deprived. You'd think nature would want a rested mama going into that.
I feel like I'm already angry and miserable and unproductive, lol. But we're about to have 4 projects drop at work, all due Oct 1, so I equally feel like I'd be really letting them down if I skivved off early. I talked work into letting me have 3 months off after, so it's kind of the least I can do.
I know! Everyone keeps saying "rest while you can" and I'm like "it's waaay too late for that." I try to think of it is a ramping up to the 100% sleep dep that is a newborn. At least I'm still getting 3-4 hours of sleep a night now. :)
I have always felt like it's natures way of preparing you for the sleep deprivation of a newborn. But you (hopefully) get the angry part of it out of the way before the baby arrives. Because I'll tell you, we all get angry and emotional about it. It really is true that the moment you see that little baby, everything else is so small in comparison and a lot of it is forgotten.
Don't work yourself too hard if you'd rather have those moments to relax and just have to yourself. You deserve to take the time before the beeb arrives.
That sucks. :( but it's temporary! i don't know what else to say. Maybe try one of those meal plans or kits for cooking? I'm sure it will all be worth it!
Oooh yeah, Blue Apron. I have several friends who use them as a meal planning service. I wonder if I could just sign up for a month... thanks for the reminder :)
Yeah, there are all kinds of them for every diet / preference / lifestyle imaginable, and I'm sure they're happy to take your money no matter. And seriously everyone i know who uses one loves it.
I know nothing about your labor plan, so I don't want to comment on being scared of labor, only to tell you that my second kid, the labor was just fine. Do you have a labor plan shared somewhere other than LJ? Or did I miss it?
Thank you for the validation :) I think I needed to be reminded of how bad the third tri is for everyone.
I have a plan and it is mostly just: see how it goes. I would love to avoid an epidural, but I'm going to see how bad the pain is in the first few hours before committing. And I want to avoid a c-section if at all possible, but I know sometimes it's actually necessary. I guess the only set request is that if I do have to have a c-section, my wife be allowed to supplement Lady Jr's microbiome. She is very adamant about this. :)
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I definitely underestimated all the aches and pains. I mean, everything was fine until we moved, and then WHAM.
I'm just thankful I can work from home, otherwise I would probably try to leave early, which would be a disaster because every project ever is due on Oct 1st. Hah. Hopefully she's not super early. :)
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If you can stop working sooner, do it.
I really don't understand the biology of making the end of the 3rd trimester so miserable and then you spend the first months after birth super sleep-deprived. You'd think nature would want a rested mama going into that.
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I know! Everyone keeps saying "rest while you can" and I'm like "it's waaay too late for that." I try to think of it is a ramping up to the 100% sleep dep that is a newborn. At least I'm still getting 3-4 hours of sleep a night now. :)
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Don't work yourself too hard if you'd rather have those moments to relax and just have to yourself. You deserve to take the time before the beeb arrives.
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I mean, it is all worth it, but it sucks.
I know nothing about your labor plan, so I don't want to comment on being scared of labor, only to tell you that my second kid, the labor was just fine. Do you have a labor plan shared somewhere other than LJ? Or did I miss it?
Lots of love.
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I have a plan and it is mostly just: see how it goes. I would love to avoid an epidural, but I'm going to see how bad the pain is in the first few hours before committing. And I want to avoid a c-section if at all possible, but I know sometimes it's actually necessary. I guess the only set request is that if I do have to have a c-section, my wife be allowed to supplement Lady Jr's microbiome. She is very adamant about this. :)
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