Advice, please...

[squishypiglet]

Okay, I need some help here.

Situation:

My birthday was on Nov 20th last year, and my best friend of 4 years didn't turn up for it. Reason?

Wait for it...

She was having dinner with her boyfriend in Chinatown.Apparently, she thought that I "didn't want her there

Comments

[clex_monkie89]

Be the bigger person and go.

And then rub it in her face every chance you get that you were there even though you had "so man y important things to do."

[mushroom_maiden]

I agree with this person.

I was gonna say be like half an hour late to make her feel bad and then arrive and luff at her, but that's a dumb idea. Go, and rub it in her face a little.

[rebelpeacemaker]

I think that you should go. Despite what she did, she's still your best friend. Not to mention that you can toss it around that you went to her birthday and how great a friend you are no matter how much she upset you. It gives you one up. It was terrible of her to do that, I know what it feels like cause its happened to me several times....but if shes really your best friend you should go. Even though she upset you, youre still her friend and who knows? Maybe your next birthday you'll be surprised at something she may do for you. You know, karma.

love ya doll!!

[numenora]

I'll tell you about a situation that is (almost) similar--emotion-wise: My friend and I went on vacation together one year. It was great for the most part, but she could be a bit abrasive and so by the time we got back home, I was a bit upset with her. If this was all that happened, I would have been okay, but we drove home from Pennsylvania and during that ride, she really got on my nerves--treating me pretty bad. I really didn't know what the problem was, but she never apologized and I held a grudge because of it; it hadn't let up by the time she told me that she wanted me to sing at her wedding. We lived in different states and I was working at Wal-mart at the time and I would have had to get time off. I asked for it, but my supervisor never got back to me and I didn't want to follow up because I was still mad at her so I missed it and she was very disappointed. That was a few years ago and every year, I feel guilty about it because she was the very first person that I considered my best friend and I think that our

[araestel]

If it were me, and I've been in this situation, I'd go. I found I could live with myself better by "taking the high road". *hugs* But do what feels right to you.

[irrlicht74]

In general I agree with the others: you should go. From a certain point on you should be above things like that. But I, too, know that it's not exactly that easy, because such feelings of hurt and disappointment can't be turned off just like that. Have you ever talked about that to her to sort things out?

I had a similar problem last year and I made that post on my journal. A few days later I decided on doing that and haven't regretted it up until now.

But it really depends on a) is she STILL your best friend and b) how important is that friendship to you?

And maybe Jake isn't such a great help, but he certainly makes you feel better, doesn't he? ;)