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My new status is hardly a few weeks old. But, the honeymoon is already over.
I don't know whether this is the fault of the arranged marriage system or the stupidity of the parties involved in it , who don't know how to use it(for example, I). In my case, we (I and that girl) thought that we spoke everything that is important before committing. And happily went ahead and made rest of the plans.
But time (yes, yet again) has a different plan for me. A few days back, she found that my 'ego', which none of my friends complained about so far, will not allow her to get along well with me, in the long run. And, suddenly she also got obsessed with the numbers in my back account, which are not great (contrary to her expectations from a software engineer with 7 years of experience :-) ). That's due to my tenure at NCST/CDAC, with out which, I am just a nobody. I consider those years as the best part of my life and my association with NCST/CDAC as better than my association with IITB. But, she doesn't.
Now the fun starts. This deep exploration started only when we both were committed after preliminary examination with a positive result (sorry to use too much jargon, but that's the way it is), and our parents have started planning other things. So, I thought (despite my IIT education :-) ), this is to understand each other well, so that we will not be strangers anymore by the big day. But, it turned out that she has different plans. The numbers in my bank account put her off. The so called 'ego' made her think. And after a day long thinking, she says, "let us call it off". I was not exactly startled to hear that, but, definitely not ready to hear something like that, at this stage. So, I tried my best to picture the future in the richest possible colors in my kitty, but, in vain. All the philosophy about life that I learnt from my readings of Jiddu Krishnamurthy, Feynman and a lot others didn't help. I could not convince her about what is important in life and what is not so important :-(
And, there ends the saga.
Only sad part of it is, all the excitement that I created among my friends through my "Apple of my eye" introduction, the hearty wishes that I received from them, the shock that my parents (I am sure, her parents as well) received out of it. I, personally, don't regret it. Why would anyone regret loving someone, that too such a chirpy little girl :-), even though for a short while.
The bottom line is, I am single, yet again. The take away from the whole episode is, I don't hate Ekta Kapoor and viewers of her serials, any more :-)
I don't know whether this is the fault of the arranged marriage system or the stupidity of the parties involved in it , who don't know how to use it(for example, I). In my case, we (I and that girl) thought that we spoke everything that is important before committing. And happily went ahead and made rest of the plans.
But time (yes, yet again) has a different plan for me. A few days back, she found that my 'ego', which none of my friends complained about so far, will not allow her to get along well with me, in the long run. And, suddenly she also got obsessed with the numbers in my back account, which are not great (contrary to her expectations from a software engineer with 7 years of experience :-) ). That's due to my tenure at NCST/CDAC, with out which, I am just a nobody. I consider those years as the best part of my life and my association with NCST/CDAC as better than my association with IITB. But, she doesn't.
Now the fun starts. This deep exploration started only when we both were committed after preliminary examination with a positive result (sorry to use too much jargon, but that's the way it is), and our parents have started planning other things. So, I thought (despite my IIT education :-) ), this is to understand each other well, so that we will not be strangers anymore by the big day. But, it turned out that she has different plans. The numbers in my bank account put her off. The so called 'ego' made her think. And after a day long thinking, she says, "let us call it off". I was not exactly startled to hear that, but, definitely not ready to hear something like that, at this stage. So, I tried my best to picture the future in the richest possible colors in my kitty, but, in vain. All the philosophy about life that I learnt from my readings of Jiddu Krishnamurthy, Feynman and a lot others didn't help. I could not convince her about what is important in life and what is not so important :-(
And, there ends the saga.
Only sad part of it is, all the excitement that I created among my friends through my "Apple of my eye" introduction, the hearty wishes that I received from them, the shock that my parents (I am sure, her parents as well) received out of it. I, personally, don't regret it. Why would anyone regret loving someone, that too such a chirpy little girl :-), even though for a short while.
The bottom line is, I am single, yet again. The take away from the whole episode is, I don't hate Ekta Kapoor and viewers of her serials, any more :-)