Why we must forgive.
I'm reading the inspirational stories at inspire21.com. This one The scars interested me.
The story reminds me of some lessons that I learned and applied this year:
- Never take an argument for longer than five minutes.
- Think before you say anything in rage - the scars can run deep.
Then there are some that I had to learn the really hard way:
- Take a stance. Courage is doing the right thing even in the face of fear.
- Decide upon your priorities and focus on them
- Keep your mouth shut and your eyes and ears open.
And then I watched Nagesh Kukkunoor's Dor last weekend. The message of the movie that I saw - An eye for an eye is what may be written, but it is also written that forgiveness is greater than revenge.
Till date, I've identified two kinds of stresses that have almost killed me - negativity and financial tensions. Of these, I consider negativity to be a far greater killer.
Negativity eats away at your peace of mind, makes you lose weight fast, gives everyone around you a headache, and makes you a bore to be around. In the long term, you lose focus, money and your sleep, wish ill (even death) for those who have hurt you, and have almost no friends remaining because of your unpopularity. Even if the negativity doesn't kill you with a heart attack, you're effectively dead.
So how should one let go of negativity ? I'm not really an authority at this. Here's what's worked for me:
- If you desire revenge, put it on the back burner until you rebuild yourself.
- To rebuild yourself, you'll need good nutrition and sleep.
- To eat healthy, you need to exercise and focus on your work and your goals in life.
- To focus on your work and your goals in life, you need to decide what kind of work you like doing, and what is it that you want out of life.
- The journey of deciding what you want out of life is an interesting one. You may not get an insight immediately. But you need to start somewhere. I made a list of my priorities, and here's what I hace (health, family, finance, education, career, find a life partner).
- And as you work at attaining that list, you become increasingly focussed. You health improves, you get to sleep better.
You'll find that you've started to rebuild yourself, and that all thoughts of revenge have vanished. In my case, I realized somewhere along the way that I was having more fun with focussing on my goals, than with thinking negative thoughts.
So get started with rebuilding yourself. Somewhere, you'll find that the need for revenge doesn't exist anymore.
To all of you readers who are hurt (either by my actions/inactions, or by those of others), I give you this box of kisses.
The story reminds me of some lessons that I learned and applied this year:
- Never take an argument for longer than five minutes.
- Think before you say anything in rage - the scars can run deep.
Then there are some that I had to learn the really hard way:
- Take a stance. Courage is doing the right thing even in the face of fear.
- Decide upon your priorities and focus on them
- Keep your mouth shut and your eyes and ears open.
And then I watched Nagesh Kukkunoor's Dor last weekend. The message of the movie that I saw - An eye for an eye is what may be written, but it is also written that forgiveness is greater than revenge.
Till date, I've identified two kinds of stresses that have almost killed me - negativity and financial tensions. Of these, I consider negativity to be a far greater killer.
Negativity eats away at your peace of mind, makes you lose weight fast, gives everyone around you a headache, and makes you a bore to be around. In the long term, you lose focus, money and your sleep, wish ill (even death) for those who have hurt you, and have almost no friends remaining because of your unpopularity. Even if the negativity doesn't kill you with a heart attack, you're effectively dead.
So how should one let go of negativity ? I'm not really an authority at this. Here's what's worked for me:
- If you desire revenge, put it on the back burner until you rebuild yourself.
- To rebuild yourself, you'll need good nutrition and sleep.
- To eat healthy, you need to exercise and focus on your work and your goals in life.
- To focus on your work and your goals in life, you need to decide what kind of work you like doing, and what is it that you want out of life.
- The journey of deciding what you want out of life is an interesting one. You may not get an insight immediately. But you need to start somewhere. I made a list of my priorities, and here's what I hace (health, family, finance, education, career, find a life partner).
- And as you work at attaining that list, you become increasingly focussed. You health improves, you get to sleep better.
You'll find that you've started to rebuild yourself, and that all thoughts of revenge have vanished. In my case, I realized somewhere along the way that I was having more fun with focussing on my goals, than with thinking negative thoughts.
So get started with rebuilding yourself. Somewhere, you'll find that the need for revenge doesn't exist anymore.
To all of you readers who are hurt (either by my actions/inactions, or by those of others), I give you this box of kisses.