What if you could choose your family…?
There's that phrase - "Blood is thicker than water". Family bonds exist without a doubt, but does that have anything to do with genetics? Being adopted, I obviously don't have an impartial view to this idea…. so in my view - Family is a choice.
My siblings, aside from my brother were chosen by my parents but we are still a family regardless of blood ties. Are we close? - I am with my sister and my parents are my parents but I guess we would on average have about 8 conversations a year - My brothers, less. My sister, probably once a month. This is the family that I grew up with but as far as I am concerned, my family has grown.
I have been lucky enough to have met genuinely supportive people - Those people who I know if I had to, could call at 4am and they would be there for me without question. These people are a part of my family and I doubt I could choose a better one. I can't imagine not growing old with them and for each new person I meet who could potential be a part of this family - they all need to pass the "porch test". This is the test where you imagine yourself old, sitting on the porch in an old school rocking chair having a drink with those closest to you… does that person fit in?
Relationships take work but its worth it for those who you know are there for you.
My siblings, aside from my brother were chosen by my parents but we are still a family regardless of blood ties. Are we close? - I am with my sister and my parents are my parents but I guess we would on average have about 8 conversations a year - My brothers, less. My sister, probably once a month. This is the family that I grew up with but as far as I am concerned, my family has grown.
I have been lucky enough to have met genuinely supportive people - Those people who I know if I had to, could call at 4am and they would be there for me without question. These people are a part of my family and I doubt I could choose a better one. I can't imagine not growing old with them and for each new person I meet who could potential be a part of this family - they all need to pass the "porch test". This is the test where you imagine yourself old, sitting on the porch in an old school rocking chair having a drink with those closest to you… does that person fit in?
Relationships take work but its worth it for those who you know are there for you.