Comments | staleyg: BIG HEAD ATTACK

staleyg

BIG HEAD ATTACK

Mar 31, 2005 09:53

audreyhorne just posted this essay by ayelet waldman (michael chabon's wife) and i swear she is referencing me!

http://www.nytimes.com/2005/03/27/fashion/27love.html?pagewanted=print&position=

this bit: If the most erotic form of foreplay to a ( Read more... )

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anenomemama March 31 2005, 16:02:00 UTC

yeah, I read that on the weekend and immediately thought of you!

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staleyg March 31 2005, 16:35:23 UTC

no kidding

she's a weird one. i'm taking all of her "my life is so awesome and sexy" with a grain of salt since i read an essay a couple weeks ago about how she wanted to kill herself and her husband had to read it on her blog.

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playful_d March 31 2005, 16:56:19 UTC

ha!

mamaste April 1 2005, 01:00:58 UTC

my marriage comes first. period. my children are second. if I had to choose, I would choose him over them. I chose him; they were from the genetic lottery. and I did ok, and I really really really love them. but I didn't choose them. they came to me the way they are and that's fine for them. but they make it hard to really be with the man that I chose to be with.

leakyandsnort April 1 2005, 02:27:46 UTC

but you won't lock the doors so you can do it and she sounds like she does and doesn't let them in.

mamaste April 1 2005, 02:39:03 UTC

I didn't get that. I got that her husband would never let her so she doesn't really have to contemplate where she stands on it exactly.

but also, my marriage isn't really about The Sex, either. so, like, it's all about Nero and Me, but locking the door or sneaking around the basement to get it awn while the kids cry and/or drool in front of four hours of videos and/or set a small fire is, in our uptight midwestern opinion, kind of vulgar. we're all about the supah-tasteful high road of going to the Cherry Hill Hilton and carrying on as if they had nap rates, yk, hahaha. do we do it before or after room service? what if room service comes before we do it? ok, let's do it twice! what's on hbo? leave the bra! let's go!! unh! etc. ha.

you know.

mamaste April 1 2005, 02:53:32 UTC

plus (I just re-read it), I think that she is not even talking about Doing It. she says pretty clearly that she likes to read until she falls asleep. what she is saying is that 1. her children have not supplanted her actual desires as a woman, etc, plus her marriage (not so much her humping) comes first; 2. that she feels like her husband does not feel conflicted about that nor does he feel that it besmirches his identity as a Father to put his marriage first; 3. and should her children say, "you didn't put me first!" she will say, "oh, I wish for you that you will find a love like your father and I did. oh!"

I think where it seems like it is talking about sex is because she starts with getting it awn, but then says, the most profound, is that the wife's passion has been refocused. Instead of concentrating her ardor on her husband, she concentrates it on her babies. and I think right there is where she departs from ardor/passion in the colloquial getting it awwwn sense and morphs into the more secular definition of thing that I ( ... )

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