Comments | staleyg: humor me...

staleyg

humor me...

Jun 16, 2005 11:44

A Poll:

Has a crush or an innocent brush with the opposite sex helped you to to "refind" the woman you were pre-motherhood? How? Why? Where? When?

Comments 20

paintedbooklady June 16 2005, 18:13:27 UTC

Nope.

ndege June 16 2005, 18:21:07 UTC

I'm pretty sure I wouldn't even want to read that book. I don't have time for that book in my head. I mean, why would I want to spend my down time with the premise that the me before kids was more appealing than the me now? That would totally negate any affect the zoloft is having on gettting me out of bed.

staleyg June 16 2005, 18:28:10 UTC

ha! well said!

loolica June 16 2005, 18:33:39 UTC

ha! yes!!

maybe that literary agent is depressed?

i'm depressed. i spend a lot of time thinking about how much better my life was BEFORE and how i would give anything to go back there.

but, of course, i was fucking miserable then, too, and wanted nothing more than to hav a kid. (not like this, but that's beside the point.)

riot718 June 16 2005, 18:40:46 UTC

yes yes! i was reading and thinking you know. my answer is that i don't like the idea that i was better off before the kids. that i was sexier, happier and more desirable then.

i was not better! i was a drunk. i was working too hard. i was on one substance or another for years. i was cranky. i was mean. i was depressed.

now i am all of those things AND MORE! wait. no. i am no longer a drunk and i'm not mean and not working too hard.

and i am settling into these years much happier and sexier than i ever was as a 20something.

what i *do* like about crushes and so forth is it reminds me to have sex more. which i like but sometimes have trouble prioritizing over things like...watching reality tv or surfing real estate porn.

ndege June 16 2005, 19:31:41 UTC

absolutely!

riot718 June 16 2005, 21:52:22 UTC

mmmm real estate porn.

since i am sitting outside my new house waiting for the movers and i can't look at real porn...maybe i should eye some nice double dinks oh i mean sinks or some hubba hubba granite top divas!

beanqueen June 16 2005, 23:20:53 UTC

riot, you hit the nail on the head.

no man can make me a drunk who doesn't use protection and prefers felons without jobs ever again. why would i want that? duh! refind me in jail, a bar or the gutter?

having a kid made me smarter. sexy potential is better now, seemed good at the time but in retropect i was probably so fucking wasted my judgement was blurred.

anyhow, god. that bugs me in about 100 ways.