Comments | stanyslava: Catch them if you can

stanyslava

Catch them if you can

Feb 13, 2008 23:30

People watching is a lot like wildlife watching - you need to sit really quietly, almost motionless - the slightest eyebrow movement may scare them away, and listen very carefully. Everybody on the road has their story, and while many of these people would want to keep these stories to themselves back home, on the road they spill out like an ( Read more... )

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aite February 14 2008, 13:35:56 UTC

Headline news: "Spider monkey poops on bisexual. Stasya feels superior."

stanyslava February 14 2008, 16:38:04 UTC

Not sure I understand you that well these days, but thanks anyway...

aite February 15 2008, 00:09:56 UTC

I can get more clear, probably at the expense of politeness, or I can shut up. Any preferences?

stanyslava February 15 2008, 01:00:31 UTC

Get clearer, just reed what you wrote first...
And for the record, why would I feel superior? I don't feel superior when somebody gets hurt, or hurts somebody in any way, I feel sad. I don't understand why the baseless accusation... might you be jumping to conclusions? but why? I don't know...

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vdinets February 14 2008, 17:07:39 UTC

The cheated-on boyfriend was probably upset only because he wasn't allowed to watch...

stanyslava February 14 2008, 17:15:07 UTC

also a possibility... though in this particular example (which is based on a very real person) the girl did simply run to Guatemala because she couldn't handle the shame.

vdinets February 14 2008, 17:17:45 UTC

what's to be ashamed of? that she's capable of giving pleasure to people of both sexes? big deal.

stanyslava February 14 2008, 17:21:59 UTC

well she dated the sweetest guy for these eight years, she says, and then did this horrible (if she says it's horrible, I'll let her decide..) thing to him and didn't have the guts to tell him..

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ex_marmir959 February 15 2008, 15:21:56 UTC

In my opinion, "running away" is far from the worst option. In fact, compared to the ones I am used to seeing, it is downright healthy. The three more common options are:
1. Drugs & alcohol (by far the most popular)
2. Suicide (not for everyone, and sort of hard to undo)
3. Joining a cult or an extremely observant version of a major religion (amounts to the same thing, really)

The problem is that options 1 and 2 tend to lead to unrepairable damage. As to option 3 - in my opinion, going to Guatemala to rehabilitate spider monkeys has a far bigger chance to heal you, as cults tend to engage in brainwashing, not to mention adding up to already existing guilt.

If anything, physically separating yourself from the place of the upheaval can be healthy - it gives one perspective ("sure, I hurt my B/F, but it's not the end of the world"), whereas staying in the same place can be a constant reminder that just intensifies the guilt. Now, if staying away becomes a permanent solution - that's a different story, of course.

stanyslava February 16 2008, 04:26:31 UTC

all three options are "running away" just in deferent ways...

though your last paragraph I do agree with. I guess I was thinking about the fact the problem is still going to be there when the person comes back. On the other hand, on the road they might find the solution to their career debacle, the answer on how to spice up their lives, or just have the time to get over a bad relationship or a bad relationship choice..

ex_marmir959 February 16 2008, 17:29:53 UTC

As to problem still being there - it depends. If it's someone you don't want to see anymore - such as B/F, then it may be easier to do after being apart for some time anyway; less of a temptation to run to him. If the person you've hurt is someone you can't ignore indefinitely, such as a parent or a sibling, then being "on the road" can provide perspective to be able to better fix the situation.