Journal Stuff (please read!)
Since things have been kind of crazy lately, I've decided to rework the way I post on my journal. I'm going to be taking it Friends Only shortly, save for perhaps the most inane types of posts. If you want to be able to read my journal or whatever, please read all of this post.
I'm honestly not sure right now who I should keep on my friends list. It occurs to me that some of you may only have me friended because I have you friended. And honestly.. I HATE THAT. I don't want someone to pretend they like me and want to read my posts only because they don't want to insult me. People sometimes might get hurt over that, but you know, I appreciate honesty over anything else. I will not flip out over it. So if you don't want to read this or don't really like me at all, please remove me from your friends list now. LJ is not a contest for popularity.
Now that that's out of the way, for those of you who are still keeping me on, I'd like to know a few things:
1. Do you want to have access to my journal or want to receive replies from me on yours?
2. Why do you read my journal? If not, why? Also if not, why am I still on your friends list?
3. Can I trust you to not repeat anything said on here to anyone who isn't also reading, even if they are a close friend of yours?
4. Do you have anything personal against me? If not, do you have any issues with me whatsoever? If so, would you like to work them out?
5. Is all of the above true and accurate?
All posts will be screened for privacy of those posting, as I want honesty from everyone and do not want them to fear being flamed by other people (and I will not respond harshly if you are calm and polite). I will then go through the comments and decide from the answers who I can trust.
A few people who I'm close to will stay on no matter what. If we aren't close or you aren't sure, please reply (or even IM me). Otherwise, I will assume you don't care because you're either ignoring this or just plain disregarding it. Anyone who is not on my friends list, but wants to be, may also post, as I have removed some people who I thought just didn't care.
As I said, LJ is not a popularity contest, so it's not like I need one million people on my friends list. I only want people on there who actually want to read what I have to say, who actually like keeping in touch with me on here (by replying to my journal or me to theirs), and/or just like me for whatever reason.
I do not do the "you add me so I add you back" thing, as I know some people add just to be nosy and annoying. That, and if I don't know you well enough to trust you at all, well.. you have no reason to be on here.
I know these kinds of posts can be rather annoying, but it's either this or I start cutting off random people, or just make a whole new "secret LJ" with only a few people on it. And frankly, I'd rather ask an honest question and get an honest answer. This LJ is for me to share my thoughts and feelings with my friends and a way for me to keep up to date with how they are doing. It is not about proving points, being cool, arguments, debates, or other such internet nonsense, even if it ever seemed that way to you.
I've just made a choice to handle my life differently now. And since my words, my writing, and ultimately this journal are all an expression of myself in one form or another, I should be somewhat responsible with it. I'd rather have this be for me and my friends than a shoutbox to a world that isn't listening anyway. And that is my statement by doing this.
That is all. I hope to hear back from all of you, no matter the reply.
I'm honestly not sure right now who I should keep on my friends list. It occurs to me that some of you may only have me friended because I have you friended. And honestly.. I HATE THAT. I don't want someone to pretend they like me and want to read my posts only because they don't want to insult me. People sometimes might get hurt over that, but you know, I appreciate honesty over anything else. I will not flip out over it. So if you don't want to read this or don't really like me at all, please remove me from your friends list now. LJ is not a contest for popularity.
Now that that's out of the way, for those of you who are still keeping me on, I'd like to know a few things:
1. Do you want to have access to my journal or want to receive replies from me on yours?
2. Why do you read my journal? If not, why? Also if not, why am I still on your friends list?
3. Can I trust you to not repeat anything said on here to anyone who isn't also reading, even if they are a close friend of yours?
4. Do you have anything personal against me? If not, do you have any issues with me whatsoever? If so, would you like to work them out?
5. Is all of the above true and accurate?
All posts will be screened for privacy of those posting, as I want honesty from everyone and do not want them to fear being flamed by other people (and I will not respond harshly if you are calm and polite). I will then go through the comments and decide from the answers who I can trust.
A few people who I'm close to will stay on no matter what. If we aren't close or you aren't sure, please reply (or even IM me). Otherwise, I will assume you don't care because you're either ignoring this or just plain disregarding it. Anyone who is not on my friends list, but wants to be, may also post, as I have removed some people who I thought just didn't care.
As I said, LJ is not a popularity contest, so it's not like I need one million people on my friends list. I only want people on there who actually want to read what I have to say, who actually like keeping in touch with me on here (by replying to my journal or me to theirs), and/or just like me for whatever reason.
I do not do the "you add me so I add you back" thing, as I know some people add just to be nosy and annoying. That, and if I don't know you well enough to trust you at all, well.. you have no reason to be on here.
I know these kinds of posts can be rather annoying, but it's either this or I start cutting off random people, or just make a whole new "secret LJ" with only a few people on it. And frankly, I'd rather ask an honest question and get an honest answer. This LJ is for me to share my thoughts and feelings with my friends and a way for me to keep up to date with how they are doing. It is not about proving points, being cool, arguments, debates, or other such internet nonsense, even if it ever seemed that way to you.
I've just made a choice to handle my life differently now. And since my words, my writing, and ultimately this journal are all an expression of myself in one form or another, I should be somewhat responsible with it. I'd rather have this be for me and my friends than a shoutbox to a world that isn't listening anyway. And that is my statement by doing this.
That is all. I hope to hear back from all of you, no matter the reply.