Missing

[starry_vision]

It's always hard when I come to my stepdad's and brother's house. When you walk in, there is a big picture of her over the fireplace. The picture caprtures her perfectly, she has that easy smile on her face, the sun behind her making her hair gleam. He has a picture of the two of them on the coffee table, a beautiful sterling silver frame

Comments

[maldito]

How do I ease the pain of missing her? I know it's supposed to ease up as time goes by, but we are coming up on her 6 month anniversary, and things still feel the same as the first week. Things will never be normal, no matter how hard I try, and no matter how I try to push it out of my mind. A piece of my heart will forever be missing.It's been 6 mos. already? Damn. As I've always said that we can always prepare for death but never for loss, this is true only b/c loss is something that has a profound effect. I could care less if people say that we end up learning to live w/ the loss of a loved one. Yeah, we learn to live w/ it, but that doesn't mean it becomes easier as time goes on

[neubile]

i know it's hard to not dwell on the situation, but you must try to not do that. keep your mother's memory alive, but try not to let the pain interfer with your life. it sounds as if you got a lot on your plate with other members of your family so try and focus on them. do what your mom would have wanted you to do. stay strong and the pain will ease within time.

[luscious]

I have to disagree with the above completely. It comes from a well-meaning place, but it just doesn't work in the real life.

'Stay strong?' What the hell? You lost your mother! Why do you need to stay strong? Let yourself weep and scream from time to time. The only way to truly heal is to truly greive. You've had so much going on in your life that sometimes, I'm sure, your feelings of loss were put on the back-burner. I know the same thing happened to me.

It'll take a long time. Six months, unfortunately, is nothing. It's been three years since my dad went and I still sometimes feel is as raw and fresh as if it just happened. Maybe that'll happen for the rest of my life, I don't know.

You just don't get over this loss. This is not one of those things you pick up and move on from. It's OK to dwell on it a little bit - she was and is a huge part of your life. It makes sense that this hurts.

[pure_vegasgirl]

everytime you post something about her tears come to my eyes.....i hope everything is ok with joey and its nothing serious....jen i love you be strong.......