Don't say it

Apr 04, 2010 12:52

Wondering if any other women experience the following ( Read more... )

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devonapple April 4 2010, 21:14:16 UTC
Clarification request:
What if a woman says it about another woman?
In this example, does it also matter whether or not the woman under discussion is present or absent?

That asked: men are historically being dismissive or derogatory when they say it, and even if they are correct in attributing the cause of perceived aberrations in behavior, it's very tacky to say it out loud.

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devonapple April 4 2010, 21:24:05 UTC
I also wonder if young men, traumatized by sudden mood shifts in a parent, which the parent herself explains away and justifies as a natural consequences of menstruation, are programmed by that parent to be a dick about it later. Perceived weakness in an otherwise invulnerable parent figure can be traumatic, undermining a childhood need for stability and consistency.

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starseryn April 5 2010, 03:24:49 UTC
I think overall the point is it comes across as wrong/insensitive unless you say it about yourself. Because only you would know anyway right?

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slothman April 5 2010, 06:28:23 UTC
Exactly. It’s presumptuous. If you notice it in someone else, it’s polite to ask something general like “having a rough day?” and leave it up to the other person to give further details if they wish.

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deirdremoon April 5 2010, 16:31:16 UTC
It's out of line for anyone, man or woman, to attribute moodiness to hormones when they don't know. It's tacky even if they do know. And yes, some dickheads (a very minor percentage of men and women) use it as a way to not have to respond rationally to arguments, or as a way to invalidate that someone else is upset with something they did.

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