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[stary_days]

I dont know what the word i'm looking for to describe how i am when it comes to guys…pessimistic perhaps, in the way i think things wont go well or that they will turn out bad or that i will wish i never got involved

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Not a lost cause

[liquidsk8s]

You sound like me haha. I think it's better that we play it safe, rather then take too many chances.

Guys can be the best actors, they play the game a lot. It's hard to tell if a guy is real or not, I find the best way is to watch there actions rather then buying into there words. Talk is cheap.

If you can't tell if they are fake, then you need to decide if it's worth the risk. You just need to take your time and make sure that they are the real deal. If he's trying to get in your pants, then he will show that side after a short while or just leave when he realizes that he's not gonna get what he want's.

For me, I just never bothered with dating, I wasn't ready for it. I still havent dated, but I guess thats because I haven't found someone that I want to be with, which is kinda like what your saying, you don't want to just jump into a relationship for the heck of it. Wait until you find someone that means something to you.

Everyone is still waiting for me to date also haha, in due time.....in due time.

Re: Not a lost cause

[stary_days]

Yeah, stupid actors. I guess being in theatre has helped to see through most of them :p
But yeah, i'm not even talking about guys who are just looking for one thing, those are usually very easy to spot. But, b/c i havent dated, many guys [and i've had confirmation of this to be absolutely true And many people warn me ab out it] just want to see if they can get me to fall for them just b/c i dont very easily. They may have feelings for me to, but its more the love of the challenge that makes them go after me.
I find that retarded, but if thats the way some are gonna be then i just have to watch out for that as well.

[demiga]

You aren't a lost cause, Rachel. Because you are a daughter of the King, you aren't a lost cause.

Cheer up =D

[stary_days]

Haha, thanks.
I'm not so uncheery, remember, LJ is a vent machine

[demiga]

" Call it cynical or what you want, but I’m just a very suspicious person when it comes to that sort of thing
I’m so afraid of falling for someone who seems great but is really just putting on a façade.
I can always tell fake from fraud when it comes to my friends, so far I have yet to be wrong about my instincts on the guy or a girl that my friends date, but when it comes to someone your interested, your vision gets cloudy. That’s just what happens."

I'm not gonna lie; a lot of people DO put on facades. I don't care who they are...unless the guy serves you and cherishes you, and is willing to sacrifice his time/money/whatever, he ain't worth it, and he ain't in it for the right reasons

Take it from someone who IS in it for the right reasons). There are people you can trust. You just have to know what you are doing when you interact, and what questions to ask =p

[bamanole90]

Definately not a lost cause. All that you've said, I know I can relate to. So if you are a lost cause, you have company. :)

[stary_days]

Glad to hear it ;p

[capi_tan]

Okay, you need to take chances. Yes there are guys out there that want to take advantage, but we aren't all bad and there are also guys out there that want to do the right thing.

"Sometimes I feel like a jerk b/c I just don’t buy the nice compliments a guy will give me. I think of it as just a “line” or what not."

I know when I give a compliment it is legit and the truth as it is with many people. Your right, you do have to feel out who is "real" but the you shouldn't be so jaded so young.

"I’m so afraid of falling for someone who seems great but is really just putting on a façade."

This is hard and it can happen, but the point of dating is to learn about the other person and who they really are. Sure the first few time you meet they may be pretending, but after a couple of dates the truth should come out and you should see it. Your really smart and I know you make good choices, so you should take a chance some time. Life is for living.

Tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all - Alfred Lord Tennyson