I totally agree with everything you just said. But i judge, because i feel so strongly about it. I hate myself for judging people, and wish that I didn't, but it's the way i am. I totally, wholeheartedly agree with EVERYTHING you said. maybe its different in the USA than in the UK, but its certainly not old fashioned where I live. In my eyes at least, I hold nothing but 100% respect for someone who waits until love, and i totally admire them for doing it. But when somebody has sex just for the fun, the peer pressure, hell, just to do it - then I don't get that, and i hate it.
"Sex should be special, shouldn't it?" - I couldn't agree more. I like little hidden messages and puzzles. Cool entry.
My experience with sex hasn't exactly been the greatest. Let's just say that I THOUGHT that I was in love with a guy after my sophomore year in high school. He wanted to have sex while I was reluctant. Anyway, I eventually succumbed and we had sex several times after which he lost interest and dumped me. I haven't had sex since then and I'm a freshman in college.
I've decided that I'm waiting until I KNOW that I'm in love with someone. I was too young and emotionally unprepared when I was 16. I know that now. No random college hookups for me. The next guy I have sex with I will be in love with.
So, I don't think that you're old-fashioned at all and you're definitely not wrong.
ignore the random writing/philosophy major.pseudonym_December 11 2004, 21:17:03 UTC
i commend you for your decision - i too have made that college-promise to myself and have succeeded thus far.
you said you were too young/emotionally unprepared - yet the latter of the two seems more appropriate as age has little to do with love in most occasions. emotions, yes. age, however, can often be ignored. i fell in love when i was sixteen. i'm still in that love, as is he, and our story is long and novel-esque, i'm sure, but we fell in love young and it hasn't gone anywhere yet (i'm 18 now, he's 20), though no one can see the future. i still commend your decision. just a small comment. :\
Re: ignore the random writing/philosophy major.sasha2December 11 2004, 21:24:50 UTC
As a business major I appreciate the random musings of a philosophy major. haha And I agree that using age was perhaps the wrong choice of words. I definitely was not emotionally prepared though at that point in my life.
Your not the only one in the family with that opinion.
But hey, what does your 22 year old virgin cousin know?
I don't even think it should have to wait until marriage, just until love.
100% agreement on that. Waiting until marriage is a nice thing (and the biblical thing too)...but as long as your in love, I don't see what is wrong with it. Espcially if it is your first time.
sex is a very big deal to some, a not so big deal to others.
my personal story? let's keep it off record. but in general, if someone wants to have sex with everyone, no amount of biblical-verse throwing/"i'm dissapointed"/being their friend is going to change that. nor is anything else because they're going to do what they please - so God deemed in giving is free will. if they want to change, they will eventually, and they will remember if you try to help once, twice, maybe. but in the end, whether they change or not, if you badger them they're never going to forget that, either, and it won't be a good memory.
I didn't write this because I was badgering Kim and she yelled at me. I was writing this because I haven't ever REALLY badgered her about it and she's disowned me because of her own sunconscience telling her she knows I'm right. I really don't badger her, I just sigh or poke fun, like I do with everybody that talks about sex in front of everybody, which I know isn't the best way to deal with it, but we can't really talk about it anymore. I can't say anything about it around her. I can't say anything about anything around her anymore because she's always on-edge (though she won't tell me) because of her lack of sex. What can you excpect when her boyfriend lives like an hour away?? We can't talk about anything anymore just because of how our feelings differ on ONE issue. She's disowned me as a friend just because I disagree with her screwing every guy or all but one that she's dated in the past... I dunno... I just feel bad because I know that not one of those times was really special or important for her. In ten years, she might
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I'm with you on this one.
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My experience with sex hasn't exactly been the greatest. Let's just say that I THOUGHT that I was in love with a guy after my sophomore year in high school. He wanted to have sex while I was reluctant. Anyway, I eventually succumbed and we had sex several times after which he lost interest and dumped me. I haven't had sex since then and I'm a freshman in college.
I've decided that I'm waiting until I KNOW that I'm in love with someone. I was too young and emotionally unprepared when I was 16. I know that now. No random college hookups for me. The next guy I have sex with I will be in love with.
So, I don't think that you're old-fashioned at all and you're definitely not wrong.
xoxo,
Sasha
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you said you were too young/emotionally unprepared - yet the latter of the two seems more appropriate as age has little to do with love in most occasions.
emotions, yes. age, however, can often be ignored. i fell in love when i was sixteen. i'm still in that love, as is he, and our story is long and novel-esque, i'm sure, but we fell in love young and it hasn't gone anywhere yet (i'm 18 now, he's 20), though no one can see the future.
i still commend your decision. just a small comment. :\
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But hey, what does your 22 year old virgin cousin know?
I don't even think it should have to wait until marriage, just until love.
100% agreement on that. Waiting until marriage is a nice thing (and the biblical thing too)...but as long as your in love, I don't see what is wrong with it. Espcially if it is your first time.
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my personal story? let's keep it off record.
but in general, if someone wants to have sex with everyone, no amount of biblical-verse throwing/"i'm dissapointed"/being their friend is going to change that. nor is anything else because they're going to do what they please - so God deemed in giving is free will. if they want to change, they will eventually, and they will remember if you try to help once, twice, maybe. but in the end, whether they change or not, if you badger them they're never going to forget that, either, and it won't be a good memory.
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