Facebook drama.
Erika is a friend. She’s a 22 years old single mother and waitress working her way through nursing school. Her son, Ethan, is two. I’m one of Erika’s many friends who’ve encourage her to quit smoking recently.
I read voraciously. I just finished
Losing the News by Alex S. Jones. Erika asked if she could borrow the book when I was done, so last night I gave her my copy. I’m a catch and release reader - I don’t see the point in hoarding books.
Ethan’s father, Joshua, is 26 years old. He and Erika are not together. A few months ago he gave Erika a black eye, and she gave him a restraining order.
I received the following message from Joshua via Facebook the day after I loaned Erika the book (which may or may not be relevant): "hey get a life erika is your waitress not your friend."
I responded "Wrong. It's not your place to decide."
I also sent Erika this message: "Heads up: Joshua wrote me 'hey get a life erika is your waitress not your friend'. No worries here, just didn't want you to be ambushed."
Erika wrote "Oh lovely. I'm SO sorry. Very embarrassed actually. You are not the first to send me a message like this. It has been a long day.. but you can see that apparently. Again, I'm very sorry. Won't happen again."
I replied "Erika, there's no need to apologize - it's not your fault. I just didn't want you to be surprised should he mention it. I'm not shocked I'm not the first. He needs professional help apparently. It's okay if it happens again. Some things can't be helped."
Joshua and I have not met face-to-face. I suspect he’s checked my Facebook page, thus I posted "In peace there's nothing so becomes a man as modest stillness and humility. But when the blast of war blows in our ears, then imitate the action of the tiger; stiffen the sinews, summon up the blood, disguise fair nature with hard-favour'd rage; then lend the eye a terrible aspect" from Shakespeare’s
Henry V.
I don’t think much of Joshua as a man. Perhaps the feeling is mutual?