The infamous New years entry
I have ONE THING to ask all of you...
Imagine...BELIEVE...that you have 3 years left here with your family and friends - and then your time here will be up. You will not be in any pain other than the mental anguish you invoke on yourself through your own self pity and agonizing. I'd hope most of you would finally realize what a waste that is and would make up your mind to start living instead of complaining and wishing. So how would you spend those last three years? This is not meant to be depressing. Three years IS still quite some time, but knowing that your life will be over within a specific amount of time makes it all the more real and tangible - when many of us just see ourselves as virtually invincible. We whine and fuss about how its not fair and how so and so has it so much better than us and "my life would just be so much better if..." and we think about ME ME ME - we take life for granted and overlook SO much - so much that we DO have, what we are capable of, all of what life holds for us. And when you get down to it...when you get SERIOUS about your life and how short it actually is...and you put it into perspective of only a matter of time - that your time here really IS precious and that you could go at any time - and that your loved ones could go at any time - what is it that you would do differently? Anything? What is it you want to accomplish? Are you headed that way right now? Why wait? What has your greatest accomplishment been thus far? Are you happy with where you're headed and what you've done so far in your life? YOUR LIFE. This, right now, is YOUR life. You can live it in ANY WAY you choose. Time waits for no one.
Even if you aren't religious and you believe you are basically worm food after you die, you have to know life is MUCH more than just existing and getting the most bang for your buck. You are human, you have emotion and reason, there is something much deeper to life - you feel it, i know you do. We all do. If you KNEW you only had a specific short timed frame left, I know you'd feel it especially. We know there is more to life than merely existing, than trying to look our best, than losing those last 5lbs, than making that extra 10 grand, than going to that super KeWLieZ PaRty, etc. While all those things do hold their piece to idle enjoyment which is fun, don't get so wrapped up in them that you lose focus of what life really does have to offer and what you can make it - that you are capable of doing virtually anything. If you aren't satisfied, CHANGE it. If you aren't happy, CHANGE it. --- So what would you change. Would you do things a lot differently than you are now? Would your thinking be a lot different? Would your 'morals' be different if you absolutely KNEW you were going to be gone in precisely 3 years? The happiest man wouldn't fear those questions, he would smile and go on living exactly like he was. If you think you need to make some changes, don't fear them, JUST DO THEM and look forward to them. Be excited!
I am against new years resolutions. I will not make any. I feel that resolutions can be made at ANY time and with just as much strength as the new year. Don't just make resolutions in spite of the new year, make them if you really REALLY want to make some distinct changes in your life and attitude. Make resolutions - self promises - that are REALISTIC and ideally lead you to living those last three years your absolute best. Don't leave out fun, but don't leave out leading yourself to great accomplishments either.
I wondered if posting that would come off as evil but I hoped you'd realize it was merely for you. It was only intended to give you a realistic view to what I was trying to portray. ---- Why should we live our lives any differently now than if we actually KNEW we would die in 3 years? Why? We could go at anytime. Our mom, our boyfriends or girlfriends, our sister or neighbor, they could go at ANY time. I used a three year example because I really don't believe in "living each day as your last!" because you need to have some sense of future plans - you can't just go out spending all of your money each day and not thinking of the future or setting any future goals whatsoever =) But three years seemed like a good round about that could very much be a reality (sorry to be morbid). I am going through this phase...where...I want to really LIVE more. I feel unfulfilled. I'm not satisfied with my greatest accomplishment thus far. I want MUCH MORE of myself and I want to give much more to others. I've been feeling this for some time now and have just been able to finally REALIZE what it is. And a new year has just caused me to reflect, as I'm sure most of you have been as well. And I don't want to do this because of the fact that it's a new year, but because I have come THIS FAR - because there is no better time to start than NOW. Life doesn't wait for anyone... reflect, see where you are headed, and sort out your priorities.
No more wishing;
No more hoping;
No more regretting;
No more blaming.
Lets take risks and face fears.
Lets just DO IT and MAKE IT HAPPEN.
Thats the best advice I can give anyone for a 'new year' and the life we have ahead of us.