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[stereonights]

Why do certain individuals keep trying to make me choose adhesion to a broad and situationally useless standard over my own personal happiness and success? Okay. Conversations with my mother/father/stepfather typically go like this (a la the great NateTHEM: "So, what are you going to do in X college

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[socratic_wings]

Too late. I've topped it.

[stereonights]

I do. I completely do. It's just so frustrating that they try to help me like this. They're getting ready to skip right to the tough love phase. I think to myself, where were you when I was in grammar school when I was struggling with the constant changes of curriculum as we moved, where were you when I was developing any of the bad study habits I have? My father is a tyrant about homework. Was. My father was a tyrant about school. But when he left, we stopped having that kind of relationship. Maybe he just really wanted us to be pals because he was afraid of not seeing me. I don't know. Anyway I resent that. I know I shouldn't, because I'm perfectly okay with who I am and the choices I've made and am planning to make, even if my parents aren't. I just get so frustrated sometimes. I mean, I work so hard and they think that I'm making bad choices by pursuing the things that I love and that I have a talent for, rather than pursuing straight As

[socratic_wings]

Sorry, not having parents like that I wouldn't know. A blessing and a curse, makes it harder for me to relate to people of my own generation when they come from such narrow-minded families. (My sister gets the same shit from my parents. She dedicates too much of her time to the arts and not enough to her studies. They just want the best for her. I would only assume the same is for your parents if they weren't forcing you into a trade. My parents accepted her decision a long time ago since she is damn good at it and they understand that

[astraflame]

This may or may not help you, but it is comforting to recall that your major in college does not really matter for later in life. So long as you aren't applying for conservatory, you can do whatever you'd like with a music degree. I know someone who studied voice in college who's currently a lab technician and Ryan's met someone who's a paramedic who studied piano... On the other hand, I have a cousin who studied to be in med school and then is currently getting her Ph.D. in Music, so you really never know.

Just my two cents.

[astraflame]

Actually, the person who's an EMT with me (we pulled duty) majored in piano and then went on to become (currently) a partner at a major bank, which is doing extremely well (I don't think she was bragging, but she was talking about some kind of multi million dollar deal she was working on). She talked about how she had to practice 4 hrs / day (and I'm getting boring here), and now she barely plays at all (she's hoping to start up again when she retires), but yeah, her degree didn't really matter in regards to her job advancement. I guess what I was trying to say but conveyed rather poorly was that it's worthwhile advancing something you genuinely enjoy, because any negative impacts it might have on a future career appear to be neglected. Just my 2 cents.

-Ryan

[anonymous]

And an anonymous had once said:
"The path to hell is paved with good intentions."

Good luck, in whatever you wish to pursue.