Comments | stevenstrange: This might be a bit weird...

stevenstrange

This might be a bit weird...

Mar 22, 2006 23:26

Yesterday was the first anniversary of my Mom's death. Today I went to the cemetery after helping Jackie tape the last full day of Quiz Bowl. Her studio is already two thirds of the way to Michigan Memorial so every now and then since the season started in October I have stopped by after the Wednesday taping ( Read more... )

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sarah_hazelnut March 23 2006, 14:44:02 UTC

"At first I was concerned that it was strange to have something in my house that had spent the summer in the cemetery, but now I don't care."

I was thinking yesterday about how we all have to come to such a sad end. I hate cemeteries, and it's the last place I'll ever be. Then again, I won't be there for it...It's other people who will witness that event and take it into their own lives. Reading this, it feels like you've been able to cope with that loss and keep your mother's true spirit with you. I don't think it's strange.

beckersunc March 23 2006, 15:02:50 UTC

I don't think it's strange.

Neither do I. The wind chime thing in particular is beautiful -- very sweet of you to keep the things your mom loved near her even now.

stevenstrange March 24 2006, 01:22:37 UTC

I not the first person to hang wind chimes in the cemetery, Becca, but I'm running with the idea.

stevenstrange March 24 2006, 01:21:11 UTC

Thank you for your kind words, Sarah. I don't have any firm answers about life and death, but I'm trying to figure it out a little bit. I used to think that funerals and other death rituals were painful, awkward and unnecessary, but I have learned that they have their place. They are better than pretending that the dead were never alive.

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nalabean March 23 2006, 16:41:44 UTC

will go to the cemetary myself today...
11 years ago i lost dad...

i love that windchime idea...
switching them out and having them around awhile...
i like that alot

stevenstrange March 24 2006, 01:43:50 UTC

Yeah, the wind chimes have been strangely comforting to me.

Kim, I have kept an old entry from your journal in my heart. I don't remember the specifics, but it was about you sighting an unlikely gathering of a type of bird that you and your Dad had enjoyed when he was alive. You saw it as a sign and I find no reason to doubt it.

I'm skeptical of John Edward and all of those TV medium types; the things they say the dead reveal to them are so ordinary. But to arrange for a visit from some happy birds, that's saying something.

I'm keeping my eyes, and my ears, open.

nalabean March 24 2006, 16:12:24 UTC

*big smile...