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[stinky_swimmer]

I sometimes wonder this...If someone asks you to hold them accountable for something, and you agree to it...and somewhere in there the person who wants accountability gives into something...and doesn't want to stop what he is doing. Yeah it is their fault, but would the accountability person have any fault in the matter. They were asked to do

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[fromredtowhite]

the whole concept of asking people to "keep me accountable" is kind of something I think is unecisary really the more I think about it. if I value your opinion and feel your worried about my actions than I will be somewhat compelled to stop regardless of wether or not I asked you to be my "accountabillabuddy" really asking is just redundant your keeping me accountable regardless lol ......sorry not the point

ummmm are you responsible if they fall prey to the traps they asked you to warn them about? well...did you warn them about them? its not your fault if you built a huge sign with an arrow that says HEY THIS IS WHAT YOU DIDN'T WANT TO STEP IN and they see that and go HEY SHUT UP I WANNA!

the old cliche is true you can't help someone who doesn't want it. your accountability is only as good as there willingness to be given to humility.

just my thoughts'
much love

[kiltboiisme]

I think that holding someone accountable is simply saying, "Look, this is what's going on," and being straight with them about it. If you do that, you've done what you promised your friend you would do. The person makes the choices to do what they do, and it is their deal entirely.

Even if you promise to keep someone accountable and then FAIL to do so, you still really don't have any blame, I don't think. You failed at keeping them accountable, but when the time came to make the choice, it was still completely up to the person MAKING the choice. In that case, it's two different kinds of failure.

-M