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[stitchwitch_d]

Today, I got to talk to the guy I've been crushing on at church. Asked him about his tattoos- he's got the signs for love and support on his arms because both his parents were deaf. Also found out that the reason he usually leaves right after the service is that he has a 2nd job working graveyard on weekends at Four Oaks, so he's been up all night

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[belleweather]

Just a been there, done that hint: Don't try to be attracted to people that you 'should' be interested in if you're not really attracted to them. Not to be crude, but if your pussy isn't into it, there's really no convincing it. And it's really, really epic awkward when you've been dating someone for a while and can't imagine getting naked around them.

Of course, if you're really lucky, you can swear blood brotherhood and make them the godfather of your kids, but that trick pretty much only works once. Yes, that means I've made this particular error more than once. Hell, more than once with men that you've met. I'm slow on the uptake.

[stitchwitch_d]

I've done it before too- remember John, the guy I was dating the first year I worked at Ren Fest? He'd seemed nice, had a good job, had a really obvious crush on me, and after awhile of him taking me places just as a friend, I decided it would be a good idea to get involved with him....But then I ended up getting mad at him for really trivial things, I think on some deep level I resented that I was settling for him and took that out on him.

Find balance

[meganne]

I think part of your problem is that you go sort of all-or-nothing. Either you pick guys just based on whatever previous bad choices have been based on, or you pick guys solely because of their 'qualifications

Re: Find balance

[stitchwitch_d]

Yeah, there are qualities I want in a guy, and when someone has all those qualities and is interested in me, it seems like I should be interested in him- but Anne's right, there's not much point to dating if there's no chemistry, no butterflies, no wanting to get naked together

[zackle]

Rather than worry if he is interested/whether you should be interested etc, why not just focus on making him a friend.. no strings attached. It will give you another person to talk to at Church.. or outside.

From what I have been told, the best relationships/marriages/whatever, normally start with the two being friends...

[swordoffury]

Denelle> Ive said it before, and this zackle (whom I have never seen before) once again causes me to say it again.
You have wise freinds, who give you good advice in your lj.
And you have me. :)

[stitchwitch_d]

I guess I was just assuming that some sort of friendship would develop, whether or not he's interested in more, and that if he is interested in more, we'll be taking it slow and get to know each other as friends before anything more. I might finally be excited about someone, but I'm still cautious, and rushing into anything usually isn't a good idea.