questions

[stolendream]

can you folks answer some questions for me

(i heart questions!!)

1) how can you tell, when you like someone, if you truly like them/have feelings for them, or if it is simple infatuation?

2) In geekspeak, when referring to fanfiction....what the hell is a "shipper"? I have never been able to figure this out...

Comments

[whimseywisp]

1. When it keeps going. Like, when months from now, you still want to have a serious conversation with them and get in their pants and generally spend a lot of time with them.

2. When you "ship" a pairing, like a couple (Harry and Draco in Harry Potter, Buffy and Angel in Buffy the Vampire Slayer, Joey and Pacey on Dawson's Creek, etc.) you are a Harry/Draco shipper, or a Pacey/Joey shipper, or whatever. You want them to make out and have lots of sex, actually, and see them naked together and maybe even have some witty conversations. And if they're your favorite pairing, their your OTP: One True Pairing :D.

Hee. Not that I ship or read fanfic or anything...

[themegaloo]

Damn, you beat me to it. ;)

[Neville/Plant shipping in THIS icon!]

[whimseywisp]

That is the hottest icon, EVAH.

(Brian/Justin from QAF in this icon!)

[pezheadmeg]

1)a) they're never the "perfect" one, or the one you imagined yourself being with
b) there's this feeling when you get a hug from them that is unimaginable
c) if you had the worst day of your life and looked horrid (not that you would ever look horrid so lets use me) and
they also had something of a really bad day I would drop what i was doing not care what i looked like/ felt like
and come to their aid. (and not just hoping to get sex, again we use me)
d) a lot of times you'll think of them and start feeling special.
2) we'll leave this up to like... Gabby or Megan or something... i don't know

[quizzical_me]

I'm a hermione/krum shipper and it's my OTP!!!

[jdangerously]

Well I was lost on the fanfic question, but I can help with the first. The way I sort out lust from love is something like this... look at the person, do you want them? or do you want to help them? And this is where a teenage version of myself got very lost, once upon a time. To desire someone in your life every second of every day is not love. To desire to make someone's life better every second of every day of your life is. If you care about a person so much that you want to be better FOR them, that is more than simple infatuation. And even that isn't a complete explaination, but it's what always kept me pointing in the right direction.

[dweezie]

Or you can go with Russ' dad's explanation: If you don't mind brushing your teeth while she takes a big smelly dump in the same room with you, it's love. LOL

No, really. I echo what Russ said. But I add that the person in question will give you confidence. They'll bring out the best in you, without you really even realizing it.