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[stompyboy]

Father's day has always been something that just passes by another day for me. It is, however, a helpful reminder that my mom's birthday (june 19th) is coming up. Father's day feels completely irrelevant. I don't have a father, never did. And it's not all, "oh boo hoo woe is me," I just don't have one.
What's it like to have a dad?

Comments

[blessedjess]

I have a Dad, but it didn't really feel like I had much more than a child support check or an unwanted jackass opinion until like 2 years ago. When I got pregnant and called him out on his shit cause I didn't want my kid to suffer thru the same bullshit I did, amazingly he started treating me like an adult. So sometimes, maybe not having a Dad is easier....cause it took mine 30 years to come around.

Kiss Genne for me! xoxo

[angela_la_la]

It's hard to say, having never not had one... I imagine my relationship with my dad is a lot like most people's with their mom. My parents have a lot of reversed gender expectations, so my dad's the emotional softie and my mom's the hardass.

[squirrella]

i'm still getting the hang of this having-a-dad-thing. my father was absent from my childhood, even though my parents were married. he just worked, drank, slept and worked more. he had no time for any of the things i did and he never once told me he was proud of me. hell, i think he only once or twice said he was disappointed in me... he was physically and emotionally abusive and i've spent the last 7 or so years connecting with him (as much as i can, which is to say, not much, but more than i ever thought possible). when my parents separated in 98 or 99, my dad shaped up, sorta, and when they officially got back together a year later, there was a noticeable difference on his part

[rivetonfire]

I had one once..he sucked..glad he's dead

[judithiscariot]

I've spent my life alternately loving and loathing my dad. I don't think he knew how to deal with us as kids, and he and my mom were really poorly matched so there was a lot of rottenness at home but it didn't really have much to do with me or my brother. But I think he really does the best he can. The thing I really *like* about my dad is that he deals with me on an adult level -- unlike my mother, to whom I suspect I'm still an errant teen in need of discipline.

I dunno, it's all right having a dad.