Yes it does....stonescorpionMay 17 2009, 01:31:09 UTC
It hurts when you do a lot for people, ask nothing in return, and then they decide to stab you in the back and forget your kindess. Or they stab you in the front, and you realize that do not appreciate the things you've done for them for no other reasons than they are the kind and right things to do.
It's especially painful when someone says they are willing to be friends after a relationship ends, but it will take time for them to ajust to a new status of friendship. Then they take that time they need, with the requested and respected silence, and use it to tell the world that you are in fact The Anti-Christ...
I've been fairly silent to the public about my response and feelings to being used for my good heart, then thrown aside and called the worst person on the planet by ungrateful people filled with their own self interest. So yeah, this post is a bit of that pain put into print.
This is why I long ago adopted a simple motto. "No good deed, goes unpunished." And here is much of that proof.
Re: Yes it does....ennuiescapistMay 17 2009, 19:18:41 UTC
Yes Michael, it does. I know this painfully well, due to experience. It has helped along the way to recognize that when I give things, I have to do so without expecting anything in return. But the thing is, in friendships or relationships, there must be some sort of equality gained along the way. I've had it with inequitable relationships and it sounds like you have, too.
Wiser people understand that there are two sides to every story. Although said person is in my inner circle, I also always realize that there is another side that I am not hearing. I doubt anyone thinks you are the Anti-Christ. I certainly don't.
Would be interesting to know your side of the story, too.
I do understand how you feel. I have started to feel a bit resentful myself about similar things. But that is another story, I think.
You know what I do when people show me they are not really interested in being my friend?
Move on without them.
And yes, one should expect that to be the case the majority of the time, in my experience.
I do wish you'd stop dwelling on these people. Haven't they already had more of your time than you feel they deserve?
Try writing letters to these individuals and burning them. My mother swears by it as a way to move on, and you tell me it's not possible for you to Just Do It, like I do ...
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It's especially painful when someone says they are willing to be friends after a relationship ends, but it will take time for them to ajust to a new status of friendship. Then they take that time they need, with the requested and respected silence, and use it to tell the world that you are in fact The Anti-Christ...
I've been fairly silent to the public about my response and feelings to being used for my good heart, then thrown aside and called the worst person on the planet by ungrateful people filled with their own self interest. So yeah, this post is a bit of that pain put into print.
This is why I long ago adopted a simple motto. "No good deed, goes unpunished." And here is much of that proof.
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Wiser people understand that there are two sides to every story. Although said person is in my inner circle, I also always realize that there is another side that I am not hearing. I doubt anyone thinks you are the Anti-Christ. I certainly don't.
Would be interesting to know your side of the story, too.
I do understand how you feel. I have started to feel a bit resentful myself about similar things. But that is another story, I think.
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Move on without them.
And yes, one should expect that to be the case the majority of the time, in my experience.
I do wish you'd stop dwelling on these people. Haven't they already had more of your time than you feel they deserve?
Try writing letters to these individuals and burning them. My mother swears by it as a way to move on, and you tell me it's not possible for you to Just Do It, like I do ...
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