security and committment go hand in hand. although you could commit to someone and not provide them with any security, but that's just cold. It's not that girls are looking for one thing and asking for another, sometimes they just want both. If it isn't confirmed every now and then, they question it.
I know a lot about that. At times I got so fed up with trying to communicate what I wanted, what I needed, even after saying straight up "I need to feel a sense of security from you," I just broke down and cried.
It's hard on the receiving end, I know. Because sometimes the girl doesn't even know how exactly you can do these things, she just knows it's missing, and she needs it.
*sigh* oh relationships, how I do not miss you at these times.
the receiving end of it must be shitty... it's funny, last night was prolly the first time i really saw things through her eyes. i'll be honest, it wasn't for long, but the view from there kinda shocked me. i'm a difficult person to be in a relationship with. i knew that before; i guess i just didn't know the severity of it.
poker has always been a wicked analogy for life. i'm always counting my outs. i play gutsy, raise big and fold often. so now i got caught an ace. i raised and got called. i know i'm probably headed for the showdown cuz i'm pretty close to pot committed, so i either fold to save what's left or bite the proverbial bullet. but i don't want to make a decision. i'm sitting there, playing with my chips. if i don't play the hand, i don't lose. i've invested something already, but i can cut myself off of that. learn something, move on. i play cards really well. cuz i can detach myself from them. people take that a lot worse than cards do.
dude...sometimes what you got up in your head isnt exactly what the girl wants to hear...in other words, it might be worded differently. you said yourself that your level of comittment is prolly equal to hers...isnt there a nicer way to say that? hmmmm...i guess what im saying is sugarcoat the mofo once in a while.
someone incredibly wise once told me: "a girl will always be a girl. no matter what." there's a lot of wisdom in that.
Avik, don't screw this up...you have a good thing going. As much as you want to be right all the time, you have to stop playing the "who has the upper hand" game. If your committment level is equal to hers then just tell her.
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I know a lot about that. At times I got so fed up with trying to communicate what I wanted, what I needed, even after saying straight up "I need to feel a sense of security from you," I just broke down and cried.
It's hard on the receiving end, I know. Because sometimes the girl doesn't even know how exactly you can do these things, she just knows it's missing, and she needs it.
*sigh* oh relationships, how I do not miss you at these times.
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poker has always been a wicked analogy for life. i'm always counting my outs. i play gutsy, raise big and fold often. so now i got caught an ace. i raised and got called. i know i'm probably headed for the showdown cuz i'm pretty close to pot committed, so i either fold to save what's left or bite the proverbial bullet. but i don't want to make a decision. i'm sitting there, playing with my chips. if i don't play the hand, i don't lose. i've invested something already, but i can cut myself off of that. learn something, move on. i play cards really well. cuz i can detach myself from them. people take that a lot worse than cards do.
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someone incredibly wise once told me: "a girl will always be a girl. no matter what." there's a lot of wisdom in that.
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i like that.
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AMEN..
and a guy will always be a guy..
nothing wrong with either.. I guess we all just have to learn that we can't change these two things.
=P
meeshoe.
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i like that.
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cute.
=)
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