My brother and his GF live together in an apartment. They have a cat who's only about a year old, and I find to be a real bratty thing. This isn't the part I consider SPO
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I would say they are stupid for bringing the cat over, and you should just tell them that the cat is not friendly towards your OWN animals, which is causing problems. If they leave her at home with some toys and, perhaps a defuser of feliway, their cat should be just fine.
they need to leave the cat at home. cats tend not to deal with that much change well. she'd be a much happier cat if they'd play with her more and leave her home.
Given that cats are very social animals, potentially both of you have made some mistakes by only getting one feline in the first place. I say potentially as I don't know your situation, after all it could very well be that you adopted your own cat when she was 10+ years old and already screwed up by humans. And yes I know this is still a common thing in the US
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Not all cats are interested in socializing with other cats. I had one who was adopted as a kitten with her litter mate, and by about age 3 they tolerated each other, but never played together or really interacted. They both hated all other cats who they met, and would, at best, eventually maybe not attack them if they stayed 10+ feet away at all times.
My cat was thrilled to move out with me and become the only cat in the household at age 14. Her litter mate who stayed in their old home showed no signs of unhappiness or looking for her.
Was the litter mate the same gender? Also, just because they don't play together all the time doesn't mean they aren't social animals - or do you interact & love every person you meet on the street? :) Same goes for outside cats, random people going into your garden probably wouldn't be received all too well either
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All cats (unless fucked up by humans) are interested in socialising with other cats
I have to disagree. Perhaps it is true for *most* cats, I don't know.
My mother has a cat, she is about 10 years old now. We've had her since she was born, so we know that there have never been any issues... but she hates other cats. She had two littermates; a boy and a girl and she drove them both off. When she was about 5 we got a male kitten and she just hounded him constantly until he ran off. She randomly attacks my mother's dogs. She never leaves the garden but she will patrol the borders waiting for our neighbours cats to show up, and then she will attack them.
Personally, I think it's disrespectful to you and your pets to bring an animal into your home that stresses everyone out. It's b/s. I have a dog and two cats. If someone brought over an animal that stressed them out, I'd ask them not to bring said animal back. IT IS YOUR HOME, if they cannot abide by that, then that is on them. You are not overreacting for not wanting the animal there if all she's going to do is cause stress.
That, my friend, is the real heart of the matter; it has nothing to do with whether your cat and dog are friendly to your brother's cat.
Also, I don't bring my cat over to anyone's house. Granted, I have two cats that are polar opposites: one is gregarious and friendly to strangers, and the other [pictured] is spooked by the very opening of the apartment door. The gregarious one lived on the street for at least a year (is a TNR cat with a clipped ear) and then was in a shelter for a few months. Doesn't mean I should take her anywhere on a leash-although I could.
Your brother is crossing a line by bringing his cat over to your house, and you're totally within your rights to tell him it stresses your animals out.
I've said it, but it's NOT my house. My parents have no issues with them bringing her over. I've even mentioned that our dog is bullied by their cat and they still bring her over.
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My cat was thrilled to move out with me and become the only cat in the household at age 14. Her litter mate who stayed in their old home showed no signs of unhappiness or looking for her.
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I have to disagree. Perhaps it is true for *most* cats, I don't know.
My mother has a cat, she is about 10 years old now. We've had her since she was born, so we know that there have never been any issues... but she hates other cats. She had two littermates; a boy and a girl and she drove them both off. When she was about 5 we got a male kitten and she just hounded him constantly until he ran off. She randomly attacks my mother's dogs. She never leaves the garden but she will patrol the borders waiting for our neighbours cats to show up, and then she will attack them.
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Also, I don't bring my cat over to anyone's house. Granted, I have two cats that are polar opposites: one is gregarious and friendly to strangers, and the other [pictured] is spooked by the very opening of the apartment door. The gregarious one lived on the street for at least a year (is a TNR cat with a clipped ear) and then was in a shelter for a few months. Doesn't mean I should take her anywhere on a leash-although I could.
Your brother is crossing a line by bringing his cat over to your house, and you're totally within your rights to tell him it stresses your animals out.
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