Responsibility

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I don't really understand this tendency to place all the responsibility upon the victim. It seems to be that everyone has this mentality that the victim of sexual assault or harassment should be the one making all these precautions in order to somehow prevent things from happening or to allow their attacker to continue enjoying the quality of life

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[the_sun_is_up]

Victim-blaming for fun and profit! *puke*

My theory on the subject is that people have become desensitized to rape to the point where they see it as inevitable. Rapists will rape and there's no way to convince them to stop. So instead, it becomes the victim's responsibility to stop the rape. It's like the weather: sometimes it rains, and there's nothing we can do to stop it from raining, so it's up to us to carry an umbrella, in order to not get wet.

Of course this is a fucking stupid line of thought because men are not objects - they have sentience and free will and self-control and can be held accountable for their actions. Plus, it's actually the other way around: it's the victims who are unable to prevent themselves from being raped. Even if you wear a muu-muu, never walk home alone, never drink alcohol, never talk to guys, or hell, never even leave your home, you still can't ensure that you'll suffer a rape attempt. It's simply not possible and it would be stupid to try. However, educating men and convincing them that

/Mawb

[kisameisafish]

I think that there are certain things that everyone should do to minimise personal danger to themselves. Some lifetstyle choices are reckless - for example, I wouldn't consider leaving your apartment door unlocked at all advisable, unless you live on a military base. I wouldn't advocate walking home alone in the middle of the night through an area with a high street crime rate. I think leaving a laptop on your car seat in a parking lot is possibly foolhardy

[ajollypyruvate]

Well, along with everything else about these people that's fucking pissing me off:
"Tonight someone told me that they thought it was unreasonable for me to think that my attacker could change his habits overnight because he is an alcoholic."
As an alcoholic and drug addict who has remained clean and sober for nearly 22 years: It is perfectly reasonable to expect him to stop being a violent sex offender. Not just overnight, but immediately.