help! I'm a global misfit...

[subtle_blues]

When I tell my college and school friends that I have grown apart , that I can't associate with them anymore, they tell me it's just in _my_ head, that I'm the one who has changed and that everyone else has remained just as I had last known them. I don't understand how that could have happened. At least in the case of my college friends (some), I

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[catchmanblue]

Woe betide on the world!! I had a feeling for a moment, if I wrote that post. I am able to identify myself comfortably with that, since I have a very few 'friends'. Makes perfect sense really and hey, being passive is probably a very comforting feeling!! It isnt taxing and a solace as far as am concerned :) Okai. Enough of the I's on the post, this is your journal, I better start off ranting on my own! :) :D. We are all quirky by nature (from the 'normal' viewpoint), something I take pride in :) :), think most of them I know on lj are strongly associated with this feeling as well.!!

Some people grow UP, and some people grow OLD!

[dakini_bones]

I have travelled all over the world, and more to the point, I *wanted* to travel the world.
Many of my friends from the small-minded, pessimistic area of UpState New York are just so, so...gah!
I still love them, but I can only take them in small doses. ;/

[subtle_blues]

Did u delete your post? Why?

I am not concerned about sustaining friendships; I've met some amazing people in life who make me happy and keep me sane. I think I'm just frustrated that I never confront people when they are clearly being idiotic. I don't have the balls to say, 'you are clearly being racist and I don't think we should hang out anymore'. I just have a lot of complaints about myself,I don't expect people to change. :)
Thanks for the comment, Phani!

[foot_notes]

First, hugs (if it's appropriate) to stop being so hard on yourself.

We all are largely passive. Possibly it's an innate Indian quality - something that wouldn't go away so easily even after having lived away for years. So don't berate, beat yourself.

You have made your choices about friends. That you'd want to hang around people who have as few prejudices as possible and that's great. It's an ACTIVE choice. There's NOTHING passive about it. And, you've moved on from the days when you'd put up with people coz they were friends. Your pro-active responses need necessarily NOT come as high-decibel shrieks or highly-moral grandstanding etc right? You've done what you want to. So chill and be happy with yourself on that count :)

Lastly, we all move on regardless of what kind of friends they were and make new ones in their place. Everyone - even you and I - moves on but many don't seem to either recognize, acknowledge or accept. You do. And, that's what counts!

[subtle_blues]

:) *hugs* (always appropriate).

P.S.: You must have a name in real life, na?

[foot_notes]

OH, Sorry it never occurred to me that I haven't uttered name here yet. :)

Sudhir it is.

[foot_notes]

And, I'm reading Artemis Fowl following your suggestion. I'm THOROUGHLY enjoying it. And, who said its just for kids? :)

[subtle_blues]

heh... It's for young-adults technically. I think they are smart books.