Sue, pardon me, but I have to smack you over the head right now.
Just because you haven't experienced "fairytale love" or "love at first sight" doesn't mean it doesn't exist. :P At Crisicon one of my friends got the "love at first sight" experience. Maybe not love, exactly, but she got a huge crush at first sight and so did the boy. It was absolutely adorable. ♥ She's such a cute kid. That entire episode at Crisiscon could have been straight out of a book or movie.
So... don't write it off just because you haven't seen it yet. And don't go leaning toward arranged marriages just yet. If you concentrate on working things out with whoever you fall in love with, then the chances of divorce will be low that way, too. There's no easy way. :3
And... that's all I'm gonna ramble on for now -- I need to get started on NaNo. Just know that love like you mentioned does exist. ^^ You just haven't seen it for yourself yet. I'm sure you will, though!
I'm sorry, but I have to disagree. Fairytale love and real love are different things. Fairytale love focuses on the "feelings" of love and while the feelings are good they are not what a relationship is built on because what's left after the feelings are gone? Real love is so much more than this fairytale view. Also, love at first sight does not make sense because it seems to tune more into the physical apperance of someone. When one concentrates more on the physical that's not real love either but probably attuned more to lust.
Not to mention both are tied into psuedo love or what most people call a crush.
Also, I don't see why people view arranged marriages as a bad thing. In most countries, they've been doing it for years. A good relationship is based on friendship and common values. *shrugs*
And Sue, you know that ILU, but stfu. We've been through this before. You don't believe in this sort of love because you don't think that fairytale or romantic love involves work. But it does. And you know what, you clearly have a really skewed view of what romantic fairytale type love is, because I totally think my parents had an adorable love, and they are still going great. And they met when my mom was twenty. So clearly it can happen.
Like I told you the last time you started pulling this bullshit, you only want an arranged marriage because you don't want the responsibility that comes with a relationship. You want to be stuck in something and unable to get out even if the man you're with is a horrible person and you hate everything that comes out of their mouth. You want to just not have a choice in the matter--you want the choice to be made for you, and that is just as bad as the people who go off and get married to people they've just met. An arranged marriage does not guarantee that it's going to work. In most cases, it makes
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I'm beginning to think we have different definitions for what fairytale love means... I didn't say that fairytale love was the same as Romantic love. And I didn't say that any of this had to do with age at all
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But the fact that you're bringing it up now and so often DOES say to me that it has to do with age. I'm reading between the lines and I'm telling you that YES, it DOES EXIST, and LOL GUESS WHAT IT CAN HAPPEN NOW TOO.
Also, Sue, this is not a goddamned research paper. I do not have to cite articles and journals. This is a matter of EMOTION. You can't just explain that away in your happy little research papers. How many people unhappy in their relationships DON'T get to tell their stories? How many people unhappy are still STUCK in them and CAN'T GET OUT? Hell if you're going to hear about these or see them online. You never would! I can tell you what every single person I've ever talked to has said, and that is that an arranged marriage would make them MISERABLE.
No, it doesn't. If I was "only Biologically attracted to them," I would be attracted to anything in possession of a penis. And I can assure you that I most definitely am not. There are TONS of different types of love and just because you don't love them in the way YOU want
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All I want to say is this has nothing to do with age. Alex and Robyn are in a relationship now and I think that's just fine. I think that they are good for eachother and actually have things set right. I see nothing wrong with people getting married when there're twenty and I don't see where you get the idea that I do.
I'd also like to say that I don't agree with you on this topic and your argument as it stands isn't convincing me to change my mind. Yes, I do have different views on what love is and friendship is a type of love(Friendship,relationships,and love go hand in hand). But as we are at an impass where I'm not going to be convincing you of anything and you are not going to be convincing me of anything, it woud probably be best to just drop the topic completely.
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Just because you haven't experienced "fairytale love" or "love at first sight" doesn't mean it doesn't exist. :P At Crisicon one of my friends got the "love at first sight" experience. Maybe not love, exactly, but she got a huge crush at first sight and so did the boy. It was absolutely adorable. ♥ She's such a cute kid. That entire episode at Crisiscon could have been straight out of a book or movie.
So... don't write it off just because you haven't seen it yet. And don't go leaning toward arranged marriages just yet. If you concentrate on working things out with whoever you fall in love with, then the chances of divorce will be low that way, too. There's no easy way. :3
And... that's all I'm gonna ramble on for now -- I need to get started on NaNo. Just know that love like you mentioned does exist. ^^ You just haven't seen it for yourself yet. I'm sure you will, though!
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Not to mention both are tied into psuedo love or what most people call a crush.
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Like I told you the last time you started pulling this bullshit, you only want an arranged marriage because you don't want the responsibility that comes with a relationship. You want to be stuck in something and unable to get out even if the man you're with is a horrible person and you hate everything that comes out of their mouth. You want to just not have a choice in the matter--you want the choice to be made for you, and that is just as bad as the people who go off and get married to people they've just met. An arranged marriage does not guarantee that it's going to work. In most cases, it makes ( ... )
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Also, Sue, this is not a goddamned research paper. I do not have to cite articles and journals. This is a matter of EMOTION. You can't just explain that away in your happy little research papers. How many people unhappy in their relationships DON'T get to tell their stories? How many people unhappy are still STUCK in them and CAN'T GET OUT? Hell if you're going to hear about these or see them online. You never would! I can tell you what every single person I've ever talked to has said, and that is that an arranged marriage would make them MISERABLE.
No, it doesn't. If I was "only Biologically attracted to them," I would be attracted to anything in possession of a penis. And I can assure you that I most definitely am not. There are TONS of different types of love and just because you don't love them in the way YOU want ( ... )
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I'd also like to say that I don't agree with you on this topic and your argument as it stands isn't convincing me to change my mind. Yes, I do have different views on what love is and friendship is a type of love(Friendship,relationships,and love go hand in hand). But as we are at an impass where I'm not going to be convincing you of anything and you are not going to be convincing me of anything, it woud probably be best to just drop the topic completely.
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