Yes, you will question the decision. It's easy to remember only the good stuff when you are out of the situation. Also, emotional abusers will make you question your sanity and your ability to make decisions. That's part of their MO. So of course you will wonder if you did the right thing. You will wonder if it was really "that bad." You will wonder if you overreacted. It's normal. Read any of the resources on emotionally abusive relationships, and you will see this pattern discussed. And I can tell you, it sucks.
But I can also tell you that each escalation of abuse sets the bar for "normal." The fact that it went physical this time means that, should you stay there, that will be the new "normal." Ponder what the next escalation would look like.
As always, I won't tell you what to do. I can only tell you that what you're experiencing is normal, for whatever that's worth, and that you will get through it.
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Yes, you will question the decision. It's easy to remember only the good stuff when you are out of the situation. Also, emotional abusers will make you question your sanity and your ability to make decisions. That's part of their MO. So of course you will wonder if you did the right thing. You will wonder if it was really "that bad." You will wonder if you overreacted. It's normal. Read any of the resources on emotionally abusive relationships, and you will see this pattern discussed. And I can tell you, it sucks.
But I can also tell you that each escalation of abuse sets the bar for "normal." The fact that it went physical this time means that, should you stay there, that will be the new "normal." Ponder what the next escalation would look like.
As always, I won't tell you what to do. I can only tell you that what you're experiencing is normal, for whatever that's worth, and that you will get through it.
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