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[sugarblue_sunny]

Alright, my plan right now, since I still haven't actually talked to Brandon about any of this stuff (yeah, I don't know) is to
Go pick up my brother in Tally w/ my mom and come back
Go talk to Brandon with him as mediator if he's able, see what happens
Go up to TN with my brother to visit my dad
Come back home and see what happens

I just really feel

Comments

[dakotawitch]

Just don't be alone with him. And don't let him convince you that you overreacted, or that he was "playing," or any of the other crap emotional batterers try to pull. (Not for nothing, but convincing you you're "talking about him behind his back" by telling people what's happening is also classic emotional abuser behavior. Trust me. Spent 12 years with one.)

[igotthepants]

sometimes guys need a wake-up call.

And if you give it to him straight, and he doesn't respond in a progressive manner, then, it's obvs. time to move on.

I've found, it's best to approach these conversations with phrases like, "I need, I would like" rather than "you don't" or "you won't". When you say "you" guys get really defensive. Just don't forget to own your feelings. As long as you do, the rest is up to him.

I hope it works out for the better, whichever way that leads :)

[black_cheshire]

Sunny. You do not need to be alone with him, and he doesn't deserve a talking with. He's been an asshole. Go get your list, and look it over. The way he treats you is ABUSIVE, and you realized that. Don't forget it, DON'T let him promise change because it's not going to happen. He'll be nice for awhile, and then it'll all come back again.

It isn't disrespectful for you to talk to people who aren't emotionally invested in your relationship, btw. If nothing else, you need to go stay with your mother while you think things over. Otherwise you're just going to trap yourself in this cycle again. >>;;

[bouncy_girl]

/hugs