ang sad

[summereats]

i'm starting work next week. it's a long story but i wasn't planning to go back to work until july cos it's an hour away and i don't have any family to leave the baby with but then a job came up literally at my door step so i quit my job and took this new one on. but because i was in the mindset that we still had so much time, i'm totally freaking

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[deltasierra]

You'll get through it! :)

Baby thinks she's part of you, so when she's away from you, it's very distressing for her. When she hits one or two years old, though, look out! Independence time. :)

It's not going to hurt her to stay with someone else, though. I took care of my niece when she was between the ages of four months and ten months. I certainly wasn't a replacement for Mommy or Daddy, but she finally decided I would do for a while. :)

[deltasierra]

Oh, and I should add that if she doesn't do it already, you should have your childminder keep kind of a log for the day - like when Baby eats, when her diapers are changed (noting when she has a bowel movement), and when she napped. Getting Baby on a schedule will help life IMMENSELY. If you already have her on a schedule, make sure you let the childminder know what it is. That will make the transition to weekends that much smoother. Children respond so well to routine.

If she doesn't have a log of any sort, you might make one up for her. It can be as simple as a list on a piece of paper where she writes down times and/or tally marks.

I don't have kids, myself, but I've done more than my fair share of babysitting in my lifetime. I've just observed other mothers and their habits, and seen what works and what doesn't. My niece was an especially good tool for observation, as she was always very picky about routines and rules. I'm storing it all away for when I finally have kids. :)

I hope that helps!

[headgearyears]

ayan kasi, padede ng padede. sabi sayo eh!

i'm also worried that the childminder will think she's too much trouble and cancel on me though she assures me she won't.

Hindi sya magcacancel! Tataasan nya lang yung fees nya!

Hire na lang a MANNY!

[chelle_liz]

What was mentioned before... about setting up some sort of log is a very good idea. That way you can try to keep things as "normal" as possible with or without Mummy in the room.

I've heard that going with the baby for the first few short visits helps... but I've also heard that it's good to just drop the child off and walk away and sooner or later the child will get used to the idea that their parents aren't there.

The bottle thing will just have to take time. Work on it as you can and pump like mad! (Hopefully you can pump at work!)

I wish I had more advice to give you. I've never had to go back to work and my children have never gone to any sort of daycare. I'm sure it will make things more difficult for me later when they need to go to school (my daughter is 3 1/2 yrs old and still very much a Mommy's darling).

I'll send good thoughts you way. I know I've felt guilty the few times my daughter has stayed with a babysitter and cried when I left.
But I am sure it will get easier!

[lullleepop]

It will be hard but it does get a little better. You're also leaving Gia at a stage when they're developing separation anxiety. I'm noticing Little Ray is doing that but only with me. Not so much with Ray. I think they're finally recognizing mommy as the source of all that is good :) It's just a stage and it will get better.

In terms of the bottle, I should have adviced you to switch boob and bottle early on. I had to do that with Little Ray at 6 weeks b/c I knew I was leaving him at daycare. It will be hard but just keep giving Gia the bottle. Trust me that she will eat when she gets really hungry. It will be tempting to just nurse her but you'll have to do it for her sake.

Everything will work out though I assure you. HOwever, if you have any questions or concerns just let me know.