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[superdreaming]

"The problem with a lot of the people I've met who are "romantic" is that they don't really treat the object of their affection as a real person. More like a prop in the romantic fantasy! This is all fine and good as long as things go fine. But if not, well! That's when the anger comes out, and you can see little traces of the cognitive dissonance

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[1eprechaun]

Joey comeau= love.

Three cheers for asofterworld!

And yea, that does happen. I always tell my bf "Quit being an insensitive asshole, cuz I love you!"
But half of romance is personalized foolish fantasy, no matter who its applied to. Why do guys get their girlfriends red roses and always assume we'll go googly-eyed? Because in their perfect fantasies, all it takes to win any girl is some half-arsed poetry and a bunch of plants. Its how romance works.
And lucky for the world, it does work.

[superdreaming]

I believe I am in the minority in that I enjoy boys that are insensitive assholes. But I have seen what Joey Comeau is describing happen in my life way too many times to count basically....Boys who realize they say they love me but they really love the 1950's housewife/indie hipster girl/sexy bookworm-librarian fantasy they have made me in their minds.
Romance is weird. I don't enjoy it at all....hahaha.

When are you in rva again, btw?