You know, my first woman lover when I was 21 (who was also bisexual, btw)once told me that sex with a man and sex with a woman isn't a matter of "better or worse," it's like comparing apples to oranges---just different. She had a wonderful metaphor for the difference. She said that having sex with a man or a woman is like going to a wrestling match or a ballet. One goes to a wrestling match for a certain feeling/experience and one goes to a ballet for a certain feeling/experience....it's just different. I've always liked that analogy a lot. For myself at this stage in my life, the ballet is definitely preferential to the wrestling match, but it has not always been so and tend to think of the long-term as a balance of energies/needs/feelings etc. It sounds like you had a good experience at the ballet....I'm glad it was a positive experience for you!!
I just wonder why I waited so long, kept it down so long... I've been aware since I was in my late teens or something. I was talking to my best friend about it in my early twenties, but nothing came of it.
I won't comment on the metaphor yet... ;-) But, for me, I think it gives me more freedom in bed and more focus on myself as a subject not only an object.
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You know, my first woman lover when I was 21 (who was also bisexual, btw)once told me that sex with a man and sex with a woman isn't a matter of "better or worse," it's like comparing apples to oranges---just different. She had a wonderful metaphor for the difference. She said that having sex with a man or a woman is like going to a wrestling match or a ballet. One goes to a wrestling match for a certain feeling/experience and one goes to a ballet for a certain feeling/experience....it's just different. I've always liked that analogy a lot. For myself at this stage in my life, the ballet is definitely preferential to the wrestling match, but it has not always been so and tend to think of the long-term as a balance of energies/needs/feelings etc. It sounds like you had a good experience at the ballet....I'm glad it was a positive experience for you!!
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I just wonder why I waited so long, kept it down so long... I've been aware since I was in my late teens or something. I was talking to my best friend about it in my early twenties, but nothing came of it.
I won't comment on the metaphor yet... ;-) But, for me, I think it gives me more freedom in bed and more focus on myself as a subject not only an object.
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