The people...

[supernovazz]

I'm trying to make new friends here on LJ... it's exciting, I'm looking forward knowing someone besides people I have to work with. There's only one problem, I'm afraid it'll end before it even starts. It's the usual story really, I get excited about something, I paint this wonderful picture but then I chicken out at the last second. That's the

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[forgecamplove]

I agree with everything you wrote here 100%. I'm pretty sure I could have written this post. I haven't made real life friends since high school. When I broke up with my high school boyfriend I went out to clubs and what not on my own and didn't really make any friends just got hit on a lot. I also live out in the outer suburbs and work 55 hour weeks so socializing is kinda hard. But from what I can gather about you you seem like a decent person and I'd love to hang out with you if you ever get bored =) God that sounds creepy but whatever :)

[supernovazz]

I have the same problem, I currently work two jobs, one is waitressing and the other is a work from home job which takes up any spare time i would otherwise have. eventhough i live in north melbourne, it makes absolutely no difference in my social skills. I just feel self-concious around the hipsters, heh.
it doesn't sound creepy, it sound noice. heh

[ultrapeach]

Like the other commenter, this sounds a lot like me. :0 Perhaps this is exactly the sort of person that's likely to make friends on LJ/internet... people who have trouble getting past that whole meeting-people-then-becoming-friends-with-them thing irl.
When I broke up with a long-term boyfriend of mine, I went through something like 'oh shit, do I even have anyone I know well?' Then I sort of met a bunch of people for dates from the internet... that's how I expanded my circle of people I know. :|
I'm still not entirely sure how one takes it from LJ to real life... it sounds semi-intimidating.
Haha, *rambles* ... also hello!

[supernovazz]

(heeey)
exactly! you can get along with someone perfertly well on lj/internet, and than when you do meet in person it's like...

-hey
-hi there
-good to finally meet you
-yup. likewise.
-...mhm.. interesting weather today
-yep. sure is.
-cough.

With me, its mostly a thing of chance slash luck, i can be hyper talkative and friendly and funny, or i can be dull, shy and nervous. I get nervous easily, and thats my problem, because once i am, i can't think straight, nor talk, nor listen. I'm just paranoid that i'll make a fool of myself, which is what ends up happening.
also, i think i'm getting a cold /: got rained on last night.

[ultrapeach]

Well, I've met people from the internets that I got along with... and then immediate got along with in person, so it can happen! I guess LJ is just a little different because there's only slices of people's lives and you don't talk in real time...

What is needed is a weird awkward people meeting. Except no one would organise because they'd be too weird and awkward. :( But at least everyone would think they were a fool together!

[supernovazz]

Well, hopefully it'll happen to me one day.
I wish I was still into msn messenger and all that, it used to be handy.. but now just don't seem to... use it. I guess all the people that use it still, are people I don't really feel the urge to talk to, or something.

Yeah.. i'm too weird, awkward, shy and lazy for that sort of thing. Its not a good combination. I need it to be spontaneous, so i dont have time to freak out about it.

[thingamabobby]

Hey new intertubes friend!

[supernovazz]

helllloooooooooooo.
god - did you ever watch snuff box?

[supernovazz]

actually, i was thinking of the might boosh, thats where that 'hellloooooooooooooo' thing is from.

why has my mind abandoned me?

[supernovazz]

500 words, ey? Where are you going to post those?
you know, up until this moment i'm not sure if i knew what a tapir was. i guess i won't get to see it either. where did they take it?
in the zoo, you either get little kids and the parents, or... zoophiles .. yep.

What sort of clubs did you join? What do you study anyway?
thanks for the luck.

[supernovazz]

German Diploma, ey? Und wie lange hast du nun deutsch gelernt? Hat's dir gefallen?
Seems like a lot of different subjects you're studying... and lots of different clubs for that matter.
i need to go to bed, my brains there already, it seems.

[dominitus]

Expanding your circle of friends comes down to just getting out there and doing it. There will always be offers of friendship if you search for them (what you've already managed to generate from LJ alone is impressive, let alone other methods you might try) the next step has to be taken by you

[supernovazz]

As usual, easier said than done. I guess my problem is that I seem to meet too many people who... are too quite. And since I'm on the shy side myself, it gets awkward quickly. I usually try pretty hard to think of something entertaining to say, but after ten minutes of monologues i feel pretty hopeless. I don't know, I guess since i'm not the cheery bubbly type of personality, i can just laugh at every stupid joke someone makes, and may come off cold because of that. In general, I don't find too many things funny; I always admire people who can laugh at sit ups and general crappy comedy. All i seem to be able to do is go "heh." ...as opposed to ha-ha-ha-ha!
and your adive about not talking too much... but what do you do if the other person keeps quiet?

[dominitus]

Yeah I was thinking that as I was typing my comment. If two shy people meet up, well... I really don't know. :) I can't think of a way to solve that particular problem

[supernovazz]

trouble with the my laugh not being heartly is that most being get offended easily, especially if they make a joke and i ...don't laugh as much as they would expect me to. I generally end up squeezing some some type of hollywood inspire laughter out of me - but what's the joy of that?
I guess I want to much - i want to find someone with whom I can really talk about things that worry me, as opposed to... food or religion. I mean those topics are good too, but I guess what I'm trying to say I would rather have a "deep and meaningful" conversation as opposed to a conversation for the sake of having a conversation. Admittedly, I haven't had any particularly good ones of those recently either.