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[originalluff]

Hi all new member. Im 22, and happy to be fat. I used to hate it, now I dont care. I am me and being me is just fine.

Anyway, I need to start off my first post with a whopper of a question....Possibly a TMI question. Hopefully people dont take offense because I would appriciate some help.

Comments

[chaggalagirl]

1. there's no reason to feel humiliated on top. if you need help getting over it, blindfold your boy so he can't see you. you can focus on doing what feels good for you (get a toy involved for clitoral stimulation if you want), and you can get comfortable with being on top. hell, tie up his hands, too, so he can't touch you if you're self-conscious about that

[qryb]

i 2nd all of this!

[originalluff]

Its not so much that I mind being on top, as much as I mind saddling up and then both of us fussing for like 5 minutes to get him in and then having him not STAY in or slip out if I so much as move a fraction of an inch. He's on a trip right now and I SO want to do the blindfold thing with him...That sounds like FUN and I have a pair of toy handcuffs that he always teases me about having...

It would be perfect but even if I DO manage to blind him...his junk is too short to stay put in me. =/ If there was a way to get it to work so I could do something, anything besides just sit there, I would...And sometimes its not even me...He'll move his leg or something and then just...slips out...Then we have to start that retarded song and dance of 4 hands trying to guide it in again. *sigh*

And as for the oral thing- ...Iunno really..It just doesnt interest me...If I had the choice to be given oral, or nothing at all, I would choose nothing. I just dont like the idea lol

[chaggalagirl]

hmm... try a pillow or two under *his* hips.

and really, the song and dance of trying to get it in again is familiar to everyone. there are so very few couples who can have awesome pornstar sex and like, change positions without need for reinsertion that they might as well be fictional. sex needn't be perfect, as long as you and your partner are into each other and having fun.

and as for oral, for the love of chocolate and all other things holy, pleasepleaseplease just try it! at least twice!! it might wake up your junk in a new way. ^_^

[leighney]

I know how you feel. Sex is all about trial and error. You can try getting him to buy a vibrating cock-ring (they sell them at drug stores now) so if you cant feel him inside at least you can get some clitoral stimulation know what i mean. Also if you go onto www.adamandeve.com they sell penial extensions.

[originalluff]

I had thought about those vibrating ring things. I'll have a look, thanks =)

[benigma77]

I have to agree, all the advice is definitely good advice. From a guys perspective who isn't exactly spectacularly endowed I know how frustrating these sort of problems can be. The big helpers we've found are:

- Pillow under the hips, yours or his depending on what position you want. If it's missionary, your legs up on his shoulders makes a world of difference.

- Plenty of foreplay. Even if you don't care for oral, let his fingers do the walking. Personally I've come to find lying off to the side while kissing while using my thumb works wonders.

- Timing seems to make a difference to. Not so much when you do it but when he slips inside. Teasing to the point of orgasm before slipping inside is enormous fun and still gives the personal connection versus the artificial feel when you orgasm.

[masterdreamblad]

ok heres a sugestion for you a favorite for me and my partner is having her lay on her side her bottom leg stright and her topleg brought uptp a 90 degree angle in front of her that way i can straddle her lower leg and slide into her we find it allows for very deep penetration of course from there the uppermost leg can be moved about as needs be either pushed up further to allow more deeper acsess or leg can be held in a 90 degree vertical angleand im sure you can work on a theme like that till you both enjoy

[firecat]

Lots of people don't orgasm from PIV sex, so my advice is to accept that it's not going to happen that way, especially if you find toys too artificial. Then you can enjoy giving your BF orgasms and he can enjoy giving you orgasms, not necessarily at the same time, but that way it's easier to concentrate on your partner's enjoyment.